Attention Different | Adulting with ADHD "I Have a Habit of Lying to Myself": Self-Care vs. Avoidance w/Sam Pitts-Rogers | Firesides Ep. 07
Nov 14, 2025
Join Sam Pitts-Rogers, an HR professional diagnosed with ADHD at 38, as she navigates the complexities of self-care and avoidance. Sam shares her experiences with late diagnosis, the unique ways ADHD manifests in women, and her goal of building a more connected community. Delve into the pitfalls of rationalizing avoidance as self-care and the power of saying yes to new experiences. With insights on process goals and radical acceptance, she emphasizes that progress isnât always linearâbut every step counts.
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Late Diagnosis And The Daydreamer Mask
- Sam Pitts-Rogers describes being diagnosed with ADHD at 38 after flying under radar as a daydreamer who succeeded in school.
- She spent ten years completing college and floated between majors before diagnosis clarified past struggles.
Quiet ADHD Often Misses Diagnosis
- ADHD often presents differently in women as quiet, internal symptoms like daydreaming and rereading text.
- These subtle signs let many women fly under the diagnostic radar despite significant functional impacts.
Choose Process Goals Over Outcomes
- Focus on process goals like "go to the gym three times a week" instead of outcome goals like losing 50 pounds.
- Build routines that create consistent behaviors rather than chasing distant end results.