123: Creating safety with your money through nervous system regulation with bestselling author Kate Northrup
Nov 16, 2023
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Bestselling author Kate Northrup joins the podcast to discuss creating safety with money through nervous system regulation. Topics include the importance of combining love and money, exploring the nervous system's impact on our relationship with money, and practicing safety with money through continuous practice.
Regulating the nervous system is crucial for creating safety and healing in our relationship with money.
Ancestral and collective trauma can influence our nervous system's response to money, but engaging in nervous system healing practices can transform our financial behaviors and future.
Deep dives
Understanding the Nervous System and its Impact on Money
In this podcast episode, the guest, Kate Northrup, discusses the vital role of the nervous system in our relationship with money. She explains that our childhood experiences and family dynamics imprint certain feelings and beliefs about money in our nervous system. This imprint creates a thermostat setting that determines our financial behaviors and decisions. Northrup emphasizes the importance of regulating our nervous system to create safety and healing with money. She outlines three steps to shift our nervous system's thermostat setting: stop, signal safety, and solve. By practicing these steps, we can expand our range of resonance and develop a healthier relationship with money.
The Three Steps to Shifting the Nervous System's Thermostat Setting
Northrup explains the three steps to change our nervous system's thermostat setting. Firstly, she advises to stop and recognize when we are dysregulated, experiencing stress, avoidance, or overwhelm in relation to money. The second step is to signal safety through practices such as movement, breathwork, sound, laughter, or tears. These practices help us regulate our nervous system and create a sense of safety. Finally, Northrup encourages solving and making financial decisions from a regulated place rather than a dysregulated space. By consistently practicing these steps, we can shift our nervous system's default response to money.
Addressing Ancestral and Collective Trauma in Our Relationship with Money
Another important aspect discussed in the podcast is the impact of ancestral and collective trauma on our relationship with money. Northrup explains that our nervous systems can be influenced by trauma experienced by our ancestors and the collective traumas of society. These inherited patterns and beliefs can shape our behaviors and responses to money. However, by engaging in nervous system healing practices, we can not only transform our own relationship with money but also heal generations before and after us. Through this healing work, we pave the way for a healthier financial future for ourselves and our descendants.
Creating a Regulation-Based Approach to Money
The podcast highlights the importance of approaching money from a regulated state rather than a dysregulated one. Northrup emphasizes the need for self-compassion and love in our financial practices. Instead of relying solely on external strategies or manipulations to control our behaviors, she encourages developing our internal regulation capacities. By learning to regulate our nervous system and make financial decisions from a place of safety and alignment, we can experience a healthier and more fulfilling relationship with money. This approach allows us to act consciously and authentically, leading to long-term behavioral changes and financial well-being.
If you feel like you’ve been given all the tips and tricks to be successful with money, but something keeps breaking down leaving you feeling disappointed and frustrated, it’s likely it’s because you’re ignoring the missing component to financial success: regulating your nervous system. It’s impossible to form a thriving relationship with money when it feels like an unsafe resource to you and you’re approaching your financial decisions and behaviors from an unregulated space. But not to worry, that all changes after listening to today’s episode. On this week’s episode of The Money Podcast, I’m breaking down all things money and it’s relation to our nervous system with author and money coach Kate Northrup. Kate is an entrepreneur, bestselling author, and mother who supports ambitious people to light up the world without burning themselves out. Kate teaches you how to heal your relationship with money, time, and work. She’s the author of the bestsellers Money: A Love Story and Do Less, the creator of the Do Less Planner, and the host of the top ranking podcast, Plenty. Her work has been featured by The NY Times, Oprah Daily, The Today Show, Glamour, Harvard Business Review, and more. Connect & Work with Kate: