How to Be a Better Human

How changing your story can change your life (w/ Lori Gottlieb) (re-release)

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Jan 6, 2025
Lori Gottlieb, a therapist and bestselling author of "Maybe You Should Talk to Someone," shares her insights on the narratives we create about ourselves. She highlights the transformative power of storytelling and the need to recognize our inner unreliable narrators. Relationships, she argues, should be viewed as a dance focused on personal growth rather than changing others. Gottlieb also emphasizes the importance of finding the right therapist to help edit our life stories, encouraging listeners to embrace change for true happiness.
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INSIGHT

Unreliable Narrators

  • We are all unreliable narrators of our own lives, shaping our stories based on our perspectives.
  • By changing our narratives, we can potentially change our lives.
ANECDOTE

John's Rudeness

  • Lori Gottlieb's patient John insulted her, calling her a "nobody" and comparing their sessions to those with a "hooker."
  • His behavior indicated a deep fear of closeness, expressing unspeakable pain through actions.
ADVICE

Change Your Dance Steps

  • Change your actions in relationships, your "dance steps," instead of trying to change others.
  • By changing your own behavior, you influence the other person to change or leave the "dance."
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