Alissa Jerud, a clinical psychologist and author of Emotion-Savvy Parenting, delves into the world of emotional intelligence in parenting. She introduces her ART tools—Accept, Regulate, and Tolerate—helping parents manage their emotions effectively. They discuss the significance of mindfulness and emotion coaching, especially when navigating public emotional displays. Alissa emphasizes embracing uncomfortable feelings as growth opportunities, equipping parents with strategies for fostering deeper connections with their neurodivergent children.
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Emotions Serve A Purpose
Emotions are evolutionarily useful signals that guide adaptive action and keep us safe.
Alissa Jerud argues we should allow emotions without letting them dictate our behavior.
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Allow Feelings Without Losing Control
Aim to allow uncomfortable emotions in while refusing to let them call the shots.
Practice skills so you can show up as the parent you want despite feeling upset.
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Use Acceptance As The First Step
Start with acceptance: notice feelings and thoughts without immediately trying to fix them.
Use mindfulness to observe emotions and create room for change.
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In this episode, I’m talking with clinical psychologist and author Alissa Jerud about her new book, Emotion Savvy Parenting. We get into how parents can better understand and manage their own emotions—especially in those intense, in-the-moment situations—so they can show up more effectively for their kids. Alissa shares her ART tools (Accept, Regulate, Tolerate), and we talk about strategies for staying grounded during emotional storms, including the ones that hit in very public places.
About Alissa Jerud, PhD
Alissa Jerud, PhD is a mom of two kids, a licensed clinical psychologist, a Clinical Assistant Professor at the University of Pennsylvania, and author of Emotion-Savvy Parenting: A Shame-Free Guide to Navigating Emotional Storms and Deepening Connection. In her private practice, Dr. Jerud specializes in highly effective, exposure-based treatments for anxiety-related disorders, including obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD), posttraumatic stress disorder (PTSD), social anxiety disorder, panic disorder, specific phobias, and generalized anxiety disorder. Additionally, she specializes in Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) skills training and particularly enjoys helping other parents learn research-backed strategies for accepting, regulating, and tolerating their emotions, as well as their children’s. Dr. Jerud also trains other clinicians in exposure-based treatments and frequently gives workshops on anxiety, stress, mental health, parenting, and social support to companies large and small.
Things you'll learn from this episode
Why understanding the purpose of emotions matters for helping kids (and ourselves) live more fully and authentically
How emotion-savvy parenting begins with our own emotional experience, not just managing our child’s behavior
Why acceptance is a powerful first step toward emotional regulation and meaningful change
How mindfulness helps us observe emotions without judgment, so they don’t take over our actions
Why developing the skill to tolerate intense emotions can help us navigate parenting challenges with more calm and clarity
How the cognitive triangle—linking thoughts, feelings, and behaviors—offers a helpful framework for understanding emotional reactions and building awareness
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