On Attachment

#132: Cultivating Secure Love with Julie Menanno (@thesecurerelationship)

Feb 21, 2024

Couples therapist Julie Menanno shares insights on attachment dynamics, fears of abandonment, challenges in relationships, and tips for raising secure kids. She discusses the importance of validating emotions, understanding attachment styles, and nurturing secure relationships for personal growth and healing.

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Recognize the impact of emotional support in parenting styles for healthy relationships.

Handle emotional triggers and foster emotional safety to cultivate secure and supportive interactions.

Offer emotional validation, connection, and self-awareness to nurture healthy relationships.

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Influential Parenting Styles and Emotional Support in Relationships

Recognizing the impact of emotional support and perception of safety, the conversation delves into the influence of attachment theory in parenting styles. The speaker shares the transformative experience of applying emotional support to parenting, emphasizing the significance of providing emotional safety to children for healthy relationships.

Emotional Invalidation's Profound Impact

01:28

Prioritize Safety in Relationships

01:11

Embracing the Full Spectrum of Human Experience

01:16

Purpose of Sharing Attachment Theory on Social Media

01:40

Introduction

2min

Understanding Attachment Styles and Emotional Abandonment in Relationships

27min

Exploring Triggers and Growth in Various Relationships for Secure Attachment

3min

Embracing Mindful Healing and Growth

6min

Embracing Challenges for Growth in Relationships

4min

Exploring Childhood Tension and Present Anxiety

3min

Exploring Past Environments for Present Growth in Relationships

2min

The Impact of Attachment Parenting on Relationships

10min

In today's episode, I'm delighted to be joined by Julie Menanno. Julie is a couples therapist, best known for her hugely popular instagram account @thesecurerelationship where she offers nuanced and insightful takes on attachment dynamics and how couples can overcome negative cycles to build secure relationships. She has just released her first book, Secure Love, which offers couples a roadmap for building thriving relationships that last.

Our conversation covers a lot of ground, including:

a deeper look at the fear of abandonment in anxious attachment
key challenges of avoidant attachment
negative cycles in anxious-avoidant relationships
what to do when one partner doesn't want to go to therapy
the importance of validating your partner's emotions (even if you disagree with their position)
Julie's tips (as a mum of 6!) for raising secure kids

Buy Julie's book Secure Love on Amazon
Follow Julie on Instagram @thesecurerelationship
Visit Julie's website

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On Attachment

#132: Cultivating Secure Love with Julie Menanno (@thesecurerelationship)

Podcast summary created with Snipd AI

Quick takeaways

Deep dives

Influential Parenting Styles and Emotional Support in Relationships

Navigating Relationships and Emotional Triggers

Valuable Insights on Emotional Support and Attachment

Learning from Personal Growth and Parenting Experiences

Accessible Resources and Continuing Attachment Education

Emotional Invalidation's Profound Impact

Prioritize Safety in Relationships

Embracing the Full Spectrum of Human Experience

Purpose of Sharing Attachment Theory on Social Media

Remember Everything You Learn from Podcasts