Considering our future selves as similar to our present selves helps us make decisions based on current preferences and anticipate future needs.
Acknowledging the limitations of our predictions and understanding that our future selves will be influenced by various factors helps us avoid making decisions that we may regret in the long run.
Deep dives
Understanding the Bias Against Future Selves
Humans have a tendency to treat their future selves as strangers, which often leads to making decisions that prioritize present preferences over future well-being. This bias stems from the brain's differentiation between thinking about similar others and dissimilar others. By considering our future selves as similar to our present selves, we can make decisions based on current preferences and anticipate future needs. In addition, using first-person language when thinking about our future selves can strengthen the connection and bridge the gap between our present and future identities. These strategies help us overcome biases and make decisions that align with our long-term happiness and well-being.
Misunderstanding the Future Self
One common misconception is that our future selves will have it all figured out and will be more rational and content with certain choices. However, research shows that our future selves won't necessarily have different preferences or emotional experiences than we do now. This belief in a stoic future self leads to the fundamental attribution error, where we underestimate the impact of situational constraints and assume our future selves will be unaffected by present circumstances. Acknowledging the limitations of our predictions and understanding that our future selves will be influenced by various factors helps us avoid making decisions that we may regret in the long run.
Breaking the Bias: Bringing Present and Future Together
To make sound decisions for our future selves, it's crucial to assess our current preferences and consider if they align with our long-term goals. By asking ourselves if we would want to do something now, we can avoid committing our future selves to tasks or obligations that we are not genuinely interested in or capable of fulfilling. Language also plays a powerful role in shaping our perspective. Using first-person pronouns when thinking about our future selves, rather than referring to them in the third person, increases our emotional connection and accountability. By incorporating mindfulness and accepting discomfort in the present, we can prioritize our future well-being and make choices that lead to a happier and more fulfilled life.
Overcoming Bias through Awareness and Reflection
Overcoming bias against our future selves requires constant awareness and reflection. Recognizing our tendency to treat our future selves as strangers and understanding the impact of situational constraints on future behavior helps us make more informed decisions. By actively considering our present preferences, using language that fosters connection with our future selves, and embracing short-term discomfort for long-term benefits, we can bridge the gap between our present and future identities. These strategies empower us to prioritize our future happiness, avoid regrettable choices, and foster a stronger relationship with our future selves.
Who do we volunteer to run a gruelling half-marathon? Who do we expect to give up sugar, or quit drinking? Who do we demand clears out the garage in the middle of summer?
Ourselves. Mean, right?
Turns out we make demands on our future selves that our present selves would think are unrealistic or unreasonable. And the reason we do it is because our minds are really bad at anticipating the wants and needs we'll have in a week, a month, or a year from now. And that harms our happiness.
Talking before a live audience in Somerville, MA, Dr Laurie Santos and Harvard professor Jason Mitchell explore how we can be kinder to both our present and future selves.