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Dave Marlene Phillips emphasizes the importance of having the courage to face rejection when pursuing a career in theatre, advising performers to be prepared for constant auditions and potential disappointments. She highlights the need for individuals to accept rejection as a part of the process and not to pursue theatre if they cannot handle the challenges of auditioning.
Dave Marlene opens up about her fear of flying and how it spiraled into a tremendous source of anxiety and panic, causing her to decline job opportunities and experience distress when flying, impacting her personal and professional life. She regrets the time and emotional energy wasted on this fear, acknowledging its detrimental effect on her career choices and well-being.
Dave Marlene reflects on the profound impact of her mother's illness and passing during her teenage years, emphasizing the guilt she carries for not always being present for her mother due to obligations and fears, revealing a deep emotional scar that still affects her as she looks back on those difficult times. She shares the inner conflict she faced, balancing personal responsibilities and career aspirations, which weighed heavily on her at a young age.
Dave Marlene candidly discusses her childhood dream of becoming a ballerina and the realization that despite her passion and hard work, the classical ballet world favored a certain physique and aesthetic that she could not naturally embody. She shares the disappointment of being sidelined in dance classes due to her body shape and how this experience shaped her perception of her own body image and self-worth, highlighting the challenges she faced in accepting her unique strengths and limitations.
Dave Marlene recalls a pivotal moment in her career where she missed a significant audition due to work commitments and fears, leading to a missed opportunity and a sense of failure rooted in self-doubt and lack of confidence. She acknowledges this as a turning point that taught her the importance of self-belief and courage, regretting not seizing the opportunity due to internal struggles and external pressures.
Dave Marlene expresses her regret and disappointment in how her tenure as a judge on a popular show came to an end, highlighting the lack of clarity and communication surrounding her departure, which left her feeling unappreciated and undervalued. She reflects on the emotional impact of not having closure in that chapter of her career, emphasizing the need for open dialogue and respect in professional relationships.
Dave Marlene shares insights on her journey of self-empowerment, emphasizing the importance of inspiring others through constructive feedback and encouragement to unlock their full potential. She delves into her role as a mentor and motivator, aiming to instill confidence and drive in those she works with, reflecting on her experience of witnessing individuals flourish under her guidance and support.
Dave Marlene discusses her contemplations on mortality and the impact of personal losses on her perspective as she navigates her 80s. She shares the profound influence of her parents' health challenges and her evolving awareness of life's fragility, underscoring the significance of cherishing moments with loved ones and embracing life with gratitude and purpose in the face of aging uncertainties.
Dave Marlene elucidates her struggle with a deep-seated fear of flying, tracing its origins to a traumatic early flying experience and the escalating anxieties that hindered her personal and professional choices. She reflects on her gradual acceptance and management of the fear as she aged, incorporating personal rituals for comfort and acknowledging the transformative process of confronting fears to lead a more fulfilled life.
Dave Marlene opens up about her career challenges, expressing vulnerability and self-criticism in moments of rejection and self-doubt, showcasing the internal battle between professional aspirations and emotional resilience. She delves into the complexities of self-worth and courage, highlighting the importance of navigating setbacks with self-compassion and growth mindset.
Dave Marlene shares her experiences as a mentor and motivator in the entertainment industry, emphasizing the transformative power of words in inspiring and uplifting individuals to reach their full potential. She reflects on the impact of her guidance on aspiring performers, detailing her approach to nurturing talent and instilling confidence among those she mentors.
Oh my. I can’t tell you how moving I found this interview. That doesn’t mean it’s a weepy one - sometimes, the most powerful exchanges are the ones where you witness the sheer strength it takes someone *no*t to cry.
Dame Arlene Phillips is defined by her strength: strength of mind and of body (at 80, she’s still hard at work as a hit choreographer). You’ll know her as an internationally celebrated jazz and musical theatre legend, who has worked on some of the biggest-selling musicals in West End and Broadway theatre, as well as a number of blockbuster movies. But you might not know she lost her mum to leukaemia when she was just 15, had a challenging upbringing and had her second baby when she was 47 years old (she thought the pregnancy symptoms were signs of perimenopause).
Then in 2008, Dame Arlene was unceremoniously dropped as a judge from Strictly Come Dancing amid accusations of ageism. She only found out when it was reported on the next day’s radio news. We talk frankly about how this affected her - and how she’s never had an apology from the BBC. We also discuss Dame Arlene’s failure to become a ballerina and how this made her feel about her body, her fear of flying and her past inability to stand up for herself.
WHAT. A. WOMAN.
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