The Art of Manliness The Click Effect — Inside the Science and Magic of Social Chemistry
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Jan 27, 2026 
Kate Murphy, journalist and author of Click, studies interpersonal synchrony and why people 'click.' She explains physiological and neural mirroring, how eye contact and rhythm build connection, and why video calls hamper real syncing. Conversations cover group cohesion, timing differences like in autism, and practical ways to become more 'clickable' through presence and body awareness.
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Synchrony Is A Physical Mechanism
- Interpersonal synchrony is an embodied, physiological process that makes people feel connected.
- We unconsciously match gestures, heart rate, respiration, hormones, and pupil dilation to read others' thoughts and feelings.
Meaningful Talk Syncs Brains
- Meaningful conversations produce neural syncing between speaker and listener.
- Neural synchrony indicates transfer of thoughts, memories, and feelings.
Clickability Comes From Many Sources
- Capacity to sync blends genetics, history, and embodied experience.
- People harmonize by mutually accommodating rhythms, creating a pleasurable shared tempo.
