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People Pleasing as Manipulation
- People pleasing is a misappropriation of your good qualities to manipulate people unconsciously for rewards.
- It is like trying to control others' thoughts and feelings to get what you want, which reframes people pleasing negatively.
Five Types of People Pleasing
- There are five types of people pleasers: good, efforting, avoiding, saving, and suffering.
- Each style reflects different motivations and ways of trying to please that often lead to burnout or resentment.
People Pleasing Creates Hidden Contracts
- People pleasing is essentially manipulation, often unconscious and motivated by fear or unworthiness.
- It creates hidden contracts where people expect reciprocation, leading to confusion and conflict.