Armchair Expert with Dax Shepard EXPERTS ON EXPERT: Esther Perel
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May 2, 2019 
Esther Perel, a Belgian psychotherapist and bestselling author, dives into the complexities of modern relationships. She redefines eroticism as more than just sex, emphasizing the need for genuine desire and imagination. Perel critiques the U.S. sex education system and discusses the evolving meanings of marriage and infidelity. She reframes affairs as reflective of deeper personal yearnings, not just betrayals. The conversation also touches on the pressures of modern expectations on partners and offers practical tools to rekindle desire.
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Eroticism Is A Life Force
- Eroticism is broader than sex and signals vitality, play, and imagination in life and relationships.
- Desire needs safety plus novelty, so couples must balance security with opportunities for adventure.
Sex Ed Failure Fuels Misinformation
- U.S. sex education is inadequate and often abstinence-focused, producing worse outcomes than liberal European programs.
- Lack of factual, relationship-focused education pushes young people to learn about sex from porn and peers.
Teach Relationship-Centered Sex Ed Early
- Teach sexuality and relationships developmentally from early ages, focusing on feelings, boundaries, and consent instead of abstinence fear.
- Integrate pleasure, connection, and communication into sex education to reduce STDs and negative first experiences.
