2204: Self-Interest is Not Selfish in Relationships by Alli Hoff Kosik with Gottman on Setting Healthy Boundaries
Jun 12, 2024
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Relationship expert Alli Hoff Kosik discusses the importance of balancing self-interest and selflessness in relationships. She highlights the significance of open-ended questions, empathy, and setting healthy boundaries to foster genuine communication and deeper connections with partners.
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Excessive selflessness can hinder authentic connections in relationships.
Effective communication involves asking open-ended questions and showing empathy to foster engagement.
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Balancing Selflessness in Relationships
In relationships, being selfless is often seen as a positive trait, but excessive selflessness can hinder authentic connections. Constantly prioritizing a partner's needs without expressing one's own desires can create a disconnect. Dr. Gottman suggests that deep and reciprocal communication, focusing on open-ended questions, and expressing empathy can help restore balance. By encouraging partners to assert their opinions and preferences, a deeper connection can be formed, allowing for a more genuine and engaged relationship.
Effective Communication Strategies
Effective communication in relationships involves asking open-ended questions and showing empathy. Encouraging partners to voice their opinions by asking broader questions can lead to a more engaged interaction. Furthermore, validating a partner's preferences and opinions with empathy can help them feel heard and understood. By actively participating in conversations and acknowledging their viewpoints, partners can cultivate a more balanced and communicative relationship.
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Exploring the Dynamics of Self-Interest in Relationships
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Embracing your own needs isn't selfish; it can actually strengthen your relationship. Alli Hoff Kosik emphasizes the importance of open-ended questions and empathy to encourage genuine communication. Learn how to strike a balance between selflessness and authenticity to foster a deeper connection with your partner.