Exploring the Dynamics of Self-Interest in Relationships

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Exploring the distinction between self-interest and selfishness in relationships, this chapter emphasizes the significance of establishing boundaries for maintaining a healthy dynamic. It delves into the complexities that can arise when one partner exhibits excessive selflessness, ultimately hindering self-awareness and communication of personal needs.

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Episode 2204:

Embracing your own needs isn't selfish; it can actually strengthen your relationship. Alli Hoff Kosik emphasizes the importance of open-ended questions and empathy to encourage genuine communication. Learn how to strike a balance between selflessness and authenticity to foster a deeper connection with your partner.

Read along with the original article(s) here: https://www.gottman.com/blog/self-interest-not-selfish-relationships/

Quotes to ponder:

"These selfless acts may feel good in the moment, but over time, they’ll limit your ability to authentically connect in your relationship."

"If your partner is only taking baby steps away from constant selflessness, take baby steps with them."

"Show your partner that what they’re saying makes sense to you."

Episode references:

The Relationship Cure: https://www.amazon.com/Relationship-Cure-Strengthening-Marriage-Friendships/dp/0609809539

The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work: https://www.amazon.com/Seven-Principles-Making-Marriage-Work/dp/0553447718

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