The Sabrina Zohar Show 27: Emotionally unavailable and anxious/avoidant trap with therapist Zoe Crook
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Jul 21, 2023 Therapist Zoe Crook joins Sabrina to discuss emotionally unavailable, anxious/avoidant trap and debunk the myth surrounding avoidants in dating. They explore the impact of emotional unavailability on relationships, the importance of trusting your intuition, not rushing relationships, and navigating relationships with avoidant individuals. They also emphasize the significance of compassion in dating, challenges of digital relationships, and the need to trust and reconnect with oneself.
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Emotional Unavailability Is Self-Relationship
- Emotional unavailability is about your relationship to yourself, not the other person.
- If you can't sit with your internal landscape, you can't hold true intimacy with someone who wants depth.
Anxious And Avoidant Share The Same Fear
- Anxious and avoidant people are both emotionally unavailable but show it differently.
- Villainizing avoidants misses that both styles stem from fear and pain.
Name Fear And Ask 'What Do You Need?'
- During fights, name the shared fear: 'I'm scared of losing you.'
- Then ask what each needs and negotiate concrete steps to meet in the middle.