The Anxious Achiever You Can Unshame Yourself with David Bedrick
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Dec 4, 2025 In a compelling discussion, psychologist David Bedrick, an expert in unshaming, reveals how shame distorts our experiences and self-worth. He explains shame isn't just a feeling but a lens that affects our entire lives. David shares insights on how childhood experiences shape our perceptions and contribute to chronic pain and hidden struggles in professional spaces. He emphasizes the importance of curiosity and witnessing in unshaming ourselves and others, offering practical strategies to unpack and alleviate the shame that often surrounds job loss and personal failure.
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Shame Is An Interpretive Lens
- Shame is an internalized witness that interprets experiences as "what's wrong with you" or "you don't matter."
- That lens can exist without obvious feelings and causes people to self-blame and twist themselves to fit norms.
Childhood Witness Shapes The Body
- David Bedrick describes childhood abuse and a mother who denied it, leaving him questioning his experience.
- That interpretation produced lifelong stomachaches and self-doubt rather than a clear story of abuse.
Symptoms Carry A Story
- Chronic symptoms often communicate a life context, not just pathology to fix.
- Treating symptoms as merely problems silences the story about responsibilities, identity, and culture.
