Healing Honeys (formerly OPENHOUSE with Louise Rumball) 109 - Why am i still so heartbroken
Aug 7, 2023
Heartbreak hits us harder than we think, often revealing deep emotional wounds. The discussion dives into the Abandonment Wound and Defectiveness Wound, shedding light on why some take longer to heal. Reconnecting with an ex offers fresh insights, emphasizing that every breakup has multiple perspectives. Listeners are encouraged to view pain as a catalyst for personal growth and healing. With practical tips for wellness and creating a comforting home, this conversation is rich with valuable lessons for anyone navigating the heartbreak journey.
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Louise's Breakup Story
- Louise Rumball's breakup was initially devastating, leading to intense emotional distress and obsession.
- However, she eventually realized it was a catalyst for profound personal growth and healing.
Breakups and Underlying Wounds
- Intense breakup reactions often stem from deeper emotional wounds, like defectiveness schemas or father wounds.
- These wounds existed before the relationship but are brought to the surface by the breakup.
The Defectiveness Schema
- The defectiveness schema is a belief system where individuals see themselves as flawed and unlovable.
- It can lead to behaviors like seeking external validation, perfectionism, and self-sabotage.