Respectful Parenting: Janet Lansbury Unruffled

Drowning in Chaos (4 Parenting Lifelines)

Jun 20, 2019

A mother seeks advice on managing chaos and overwhelm after the arrival of her third child. Topics discussed include managing daily schedule and attention, trusting oneself as a parent, creating space for children's emotions, re-imagining connection and quality time, and finding self-care and quality time with children.

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Acknowledge and accept the chaos of a newborn and let go of previous routines and schedules.

Reframe expectations and understand that demanding behaviors are natural responses, allowing for acceptance and understanding to alleviate guilt and over-responsibility.

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Submit to the Passage

In the podcast, the speaker advises the overwhelmed mother to submit to the current phase of life, acknowledging that having a new baby brings major changes and challenges. The speaker encourages the mother to let go of the previous routines and schedules and embrace the reality of the chaotic household. By understanding that this is a temporary phase and reframing her expectations, the mother can find moments of enjoyment in her parenting journey.

Introduction

2min

Managing Daily Schedule and Attention

11min

Trusting Yourself and Creating a Space for Children's Emotions

2min

Re-Imagining Connection and Quality Time

3min

Finding Self-Care and Quality Time with Children

4min

A parent writes that she’s overwhelmed since the arrival of her third child. While she used to manage a reasonable schedule that allowed for chores, self-care, and one-on-one time with her kids, now the older ones whine and scream and demand her attention. Any semblance of order in her day “has completely gone out the window.” She says her household is in chaos, her kids are miserable, and that she’s simply burnt out. “I don’t enjoy being a mom right now.” She’s hoping Janet has some suggestions how to get through this very difficult period.

For more advice on common parenting issues, please check out Janet's best-selling books on Audible, FREE with a 30-day trial membership (adbl.co/2OBVztZ).

Paperbacks and e-books are available at Amazon. Also, her exclusive audio series "Sessions" is available for download. This is a collection of recorded one-on-one consultations with parents discussing their most immediate and pressing concerns (www.SessionsAudio.com).

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