Thanks For Asking Help, I Said the Wrong Thing!
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May 27, 2025 Ashton Zager, a fiber artist and bereaved mother, shares her powerful journey through grief after losing her son, Hank. She candidly discusses the clumsy responses she received, revealing how some comments intensified her sorrow. Ashton emphasizes that acknowledgment and practical support were the most helpful during her struggles. With the host, they analyze a listener's heartfelt mistake when comforting a grieving friend, reminding us that it's okay to misstep, learn from it, and approach these sensitive moments with compassion.
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Words Trip Us Up In Grief
- Nora observes that people often say the wrong thing not from malice but from human clumsiness.
- This normalizes mistakes as inevitable parts of caring and grief interactions.
Rejection Sensitivity Fueled A Breakdown
- A caller with ADHD describes rejection sensitivity and how one text about infant loss sent them into a shame spiral.
- They replayed the interaction, lost sleep, and regretted how their friend received the message.
Text Missed The Mark And Triggered Space
- The texter sent: "everyone knows you... would never intentionally..." and the grieving friend replied it felt "weird."
- The friend later asked for no contact, saying the message made them feel "icky" and they lacked capacity to manage others' reactions.