Speaking of Sex with The Pleasure Mechanics Arousal: The Dual Control Model
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Mar 13, 2025 Dive into the intriguing Dual Control Model of Arousal, which redefines how we understand sexual desire. Balancing turn-ons and turn-offs is crucial, much like managing a car's gas and brake. Explore personal factors that enhance or inhibit arousal, highlighting the importance of environment and communication. Learn how to cultivate erotic spaces, especially for mothers, amidst everyday distractions. The conversation even tackles how to shift focus from past trauma to present pleasure, offering practical strategies for deeper intimacy.
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Arousal is Not Linear
- Traditional arousal models depict a linear progression towards orgasm.
- This ignores the constant interplay of turn-ons and turn-offs.
Dual Control Model
- The dual control model suggests arousal involves both excitatory and inhibitory factors (gas and brakes).
- Turn-offs play a significant role during sex, not just before.
Manage Your Brakes
- Identify and manage factors inhibiting arousal, rather than just adding more stimulation.
- Many sexual problems stem from excessive inhibition, not lack of excitation.
