The Couples Therapist Couch 226: Childhood Trauma & Relationships with Lisa Ferentz
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Nov 19, 2024 In this engaging discussion, Lisa Ferentz, a trauma expert with over 40 years of experience and founder of The Ferentz Institute, explores the impact of childhood trauma on adult relationships. She highlights how emotional neglect hinders intimacy and connection. Lisa emphasizes the importance of trauma-informed care and integrating individual and couples therapy. The conversation also covers the significance of self-love, empathy, and the difference between interdependence and codependency, providing valuable insights for healing and growth.
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Trauma Definition
- Trauma is not just about the event itself, but the meaning the person attaches to it.
- Someone can experience objective trauma, but not consider themselves traumatized if they don't personalize the experience.
Caretaker's Role
- Caretakers play a significant role in a child's meaning-making around trauma.
- Blaming or shaming a child after a traumatic event adds layers of trauma and hinders healing.
Shame and Trauma
- Shame is a core feature of trauma, especially when a child is blamed for their abuse.
- It leads to feelings of worthlessness and being fundamentally flawed.