How to Raise Confident and Resilient Kids with Jay Shetty
Oct 11, 2024
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Jay Shetty, host of On Purpose and a former monk, shares his wisdom on parenting by emphasizing the need for self-reflection and intentionality. He highlights how to nurture strong parent-child bonds and adapt to each child’s unique needs. Discover the importance of supporting children through their emotions and fostering resilience. Shetty also discusses the transition from viewing discipline as punishment to a constructive teaching tool. With insights into the complexities of parenting teens, he advocates for open communication and trust to empower children.
Reflecting on one's upbringing enables parents to create intentional parenting strategies that foster secure attachments with their children.
Shifting from a mindset of guilt to one of growth empowers parents to strengthen relationships and adapt to evolving dynamics over time.
Fostering confidence in children through skill-building activities promotes self-efficacy and allows them to explore their unique passions and interests.
Deep dives
The Importance of Intentional Parenting Reflection
Reflecting on one's upbringing before becoming a parent is crucial for fostering intentional parenting. Understanding one's own childhood experiences, including secure attachments and learned behaviors, can guide parents in shaping their parenting approach. By engaging in reflection, prospective parents can establish a mission statement that outlines the type of parent they aspire to be. This proactive reflection helps create secure attachment relationships with children and enhances their ability to parent thoughtfully.
Navigating the Mistakes of Parenthood
Parents often carry guilt and shame over perceived mistakes made in their parenting journey. Common feelings include regret about the amount of time spent with children or failing to address their needs effectively. However, it is essential to recognize that parenting is dynamic, and relationships can evolve over time. Acknowledging this allows parents to shift from a mindset of failure to one of growth, where secure attachments can strengthen despite past challenges.
The Balance Between Discipline and Emotional Support
Effective discipline is about establishing clear limits while providing emotional support, rather than simply imposing rules. Parents need to convey that strong expectations are in place for their children's safety and development. It is essential to remain emotionally available to children during discipline, reinforcing that feelings of disappointment or anger are acceptable while emphasizing the need for appropriate behaviors. By fostering an environment where feelings are acknowledged but inappropriate actions are addressed, parents cultivate trust and resilience.
Understanding the Role of Communication and Presence
Effective communication with children evolves as they grow, with younger children often needing physical presence and reassurance rather than verbalization. As kids mature, particularly during their teenage years, it's beneficial for parents to adopt a more laid-back approach, offering emotional availability while allowing their children space. Engaging in joint activities, such as driving or shared hobbies, can create an atmosphere conducive to open discussions. Ultimately, being an 'askable' and 'tellable' parent enhances the likelihood that children will turn to their parents for support during challenging times.
Building Competence for Lasting Confidence
To foster confidence in children, parents should focus on developing their kids' competence through skill-building rather than relying solely on praise. Encouraging exploration and perseverance in various activities, whether through sports, arts, or daily tasks, enhances children's sense of self-efficacy and capability. Additionally, parents can cultivate an environment where their children feel free to express their interests and passions. This approach not only enhances confidence but also allows children to learn valuable life skills as they navigate their unique paths.
Join us for a special joint episode with Jay Shetty, host of the podcast On Purpose. We delve into how to find your values when you’re approaching parenting, fostering a strong parent-child bond, and how to adapt to your child’s unique needs. We also discuss the best ways we can help develop confidence, and how to approach discipline.
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