1033: How to Build Your Social Confidence with Susan Callender
Feb 17, 2025
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Susan Callender, a success coach and founder of Social Confidence Pro, shares her transformative insights on building social confidence. She discusses six steps to overcome shyness and how to manage nervousness effectively. Listeners learn about the 'social priming system' for boosting communication skills and the importance of self-valuing in social interactions. Callender emphasizes gratitude and connection as key components in enhancing social presence, ultimately helping professionals step into the spotlight with charisma.
Embracing personal value is crucial for professional growth, as it invites recognition of unique contributions and fosters opportunities for success.
The Social Priming System employs mental rehearsal and visualization techniques to effectively reduce social anxiety and enhance confidence in interactions.
Deep dives
Claiming Your Value
Recognizing and embracing personal value is crucial for professional growth. Everyone possesses unique skills and traits that are needed in the workplace, which means there is a place for each individual regardless of perceived shortcomings. By adopting a mindset that asserts one's worth, individuals can create opportunities for success, inviting others to acknowledge their contributions. Acting with confidence transforms how others perceive and respond to you, fostering a positive professional image.
The Social Priming System
The Social Priming System is a practical approach to overcoming social anxiety through mental rehearsal. This method involves a series of steps designed to prepare one's mindset for social interactions, starting with calming techniques and self-observation to identify anxiety triggers. By visualizing various scenarios in detail—like attending a networking event—individuals can mentally practice positive outcomes and reinforce a confident identity. This process not only helps reduce nervousness but also builds a framework for repeated successes in social settings.
Transforming Identity for Social Confidence
Shifting one's social identity is essential for overcoming limitations imposed by past labels such as 'shy' or 'introverted.' Instead of merely focusing on conversation starters, one must embody a new self-image that embraces social interactions positively. The transition may involve recognizing past experiences that shaped current beliefs and taking deliberate steps to redefine one's place in social environments. By integrating tools like visualization and positive affirmations, individuals can transform their interactions, ultimately leading to a more confident and engaged presence.
Susan Callender is a success coach and founder of Social Confidence Pro, where she runs The School of Social Mastery. She helps sharp, high-achieving yet socially reluctant professionals polish their people skills and step into the spotlight. Through her school and coaching, she helps chronic overthinkers create a bigger impact and add more value to the careers they love. Susan shares her expertise as host of the Social Skills Mastery podcast, transforming clients from Boston to Bangkok and beyond.