Pulling The Thread with Elise Loehnen 7 Tools for Choosing Wholeness Over Goodness (Courtney Smith)
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Aug 28, 2025 Courtney Smith, a coach and Enneagram expert, joins the discussion to explore personal transformation from a place of self-respect and compassion. She shares seven tools for choosing wholeness over the societal pressure to be 'good.' The conversation dives into the complexities of gender roles, the significance of community in personal growth, and how embracing one's shadow can lead to profound understanding. Personal stories and insights encourage listeners to reflect on their narratives and reclaim authenticity in their lives.
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Goodness vs Wholeness
- Performing culturally defined "goodness" forces women to suppress parts of themselves and reduces vitality.
- Choosing wholeness restores those disowned parts, reclaiming energy and agency.
Shadow Integration Increases Agency
- Integrating shadow qualities increases responsiveness and capacity to co-create in the world.
- Abandoning the shadow makes you rigid, reduces agency, and causes internal shame.
A Universal Seven-Tool Process
- The workbook's core process is a portable method to interrogate stuck stories across life domains.
- Each sin-specific chapter applies the same seven tools to different areas like money, body, and rest.
