Being Well with Forrest Hanson and Dr. Rick Hanson Learning Nonviolent Communication with Oren Jay Sofer
Apr 15, 2019
Oren Jay Sofer, an author and teacher renowned for merging mindfulness with Nonviolent Communication, shares invaluable insights. He explains the essence of Nonviolent Communication as a tool for social change, emphasizing its impact on personal awareness and presence. Oren encourages modeling integrity when engaging with difficult people and highlights the importance of authentic communication without punitive intent. He also delves into setting clear boundaries while maintaining care, offering listeners practical strategies for fostering meaningful dialogues.
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NVC Is An Awareness Practice
- Nonviolent Communication (NVC) is primarily an awareness practice for transforming consciousness, not just a speaking formula.
- Marshall Rosenberg designed NVC to reduce violence by changing how we think and speak about needs.
Form Reveals Inner Patterns
- The classic NVC template (observation, feeling, need, request) is a training tool, not a fixed script.
- The template reveals underlying judgments and helps shift perceptions if paired with internal mindfulness work.
Meditation Didn’t Transfer To Arguments
- Oren noticed his meditation calm vanished during kitchen disputes while working at Insight Meditation Society.
- That gap led him to integrate NVC to keep meditation qualities present in relationships.
