Dr. Orion Taraban, a clinical psychologist and creator of Psych Hacks, joins the conversation about the complexities of nontransactable goods like loyalty and love. They discuss the struggle of letting go of positive but painful memories from past relationships. The value of loyalty is scrutinized, emphasizing the need for reassessment based on personal integrity. The episode also touches on the emotional turbulence of love, balancing selflessness with personal interest, and introduces practical tips for managing emotional clutter and overstimulation.
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Clinging to Positive Memories
Connor clings to memories of manic highs in a past relationship with a woman with BPD and bipolar disorder.
Those fond memories block his ability to be present and open-hearted in the present.
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Non-Transactable Goods Explained
Relationships involve exchange of unequal goods of comparable value, rooted in perception and economics.
Non-transactable goods like love and loyalty cannot be traded or bought without losing their essence.
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Balance Nostalgia with Reality
When stuck on nostalgic memories, list negative aspects and meditate on them to balance perspective.
Replace romanticized memories with realistic ones to free yourself from emotional attachment.
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Discussed in this episode:
How can I stop clinging to the good relationship memories from the past if they make me feel miserable now? (2:35)
When is loyalty no longer worth it? (23:52)
Listener tip: Sensory sensitivity is linked to overstimulation. (55:41)
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