Therapist and life coach Jemma Sbeg joins Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby to explore the complexities of navigating your 20s. They discuss decision-making, embracing discomfort for personal growth, the impact of social media on self-esteem, and how parental influences shape love and relationships.
Making intentional choices in your 20s sets the foundation for love, happiness, and success in the future.
Unpacking your relationship with your family helps overcome self-sabotage and approach relationships in a healthier way.
Deep dives
The Importance of Making Intentional Choices in Your 20s
During your 20s, the decisions you make will shape your future trajectory. While it's never too late to change direction, making solid values-based and intentional choices early on will set you up for love, happiness, and success later in life. Don't rush to reach the finish line without truly considering lifelong decisions. Working on yourself and challenging common misconceptions about constant happiness and having a set life plan can lead to personal and professional growth. Embrace failure and negative emotions as learning experiences, and treat risk as your best friend. Remember, there isn't one perfect career and focus on aligning your skills and values to find a fulfilling path.
Exploring the Impact of Family Environment on Relationships
Unpacking your relationship with your family and parents can reveal the unconscious influences on how you see love, compassion, and intimacy. Understanding how your parents' relationship dynamics shaped your beliefs and attachment style can help you overcome self-sabotage and approach relationships in a healthier way. Particular attention should be given to addressing any hidden trauma or shame related to your upbringing. Recognize that a relationship alone cannot sustain you, and it's essential to find happiness and fulfillment within yourself before seeking a partnership.
The Role of Social Media in Comparison and Self-Perception
Social media has become a thief of joy, perpetuating constant comparison to others' seemingly perfect lives. Humans are not designed to constantly compare themselves to millions of people worldwide. This leads to self-doubt, self-shame, and unrealistic standards of happiness. Taking breaks from social media and consciously approaching its use can help reduce the negative impact. Learning to view curated content with a critical eye and acknowledging that social media doesn't reflect the full reality can help regain control and self-worth.
Finding Personal Happiness and Contentment
The pursuit of personal happiness starts with understanding that it's not dependent on outside circumstances, including relationships. Happiness is not tied to achieving specific goals or finding a soulmate. Learning to live in the present moment and finding contentment within yourself is crucial. Let go of the belief that external factors will bring long-lasting happiness and focus on creating a life that aligns with your values and brings you genuine joy.
Ah, your 20s... a decade full of so much promise, potential, and radical growth. And yet, as a therapist and a life coach, I know that your 20s can also be uniquely difficult, especially when you expect that they're "supposed to be" the best years of your life!
Young adults have always been challenged to explore their identities, learn about the complexities of romantic relationships, and start establishing themselves professionally. But in 2024, they're also grappling with student debt, outrageous housing costs, the mental health minefield of social media, and the weirdness of online dating. It's a lot!
To help you unpack it all, I sat down with Jemma Sbeg, host of the fantastic podcast, "The Psychology of Your 20s." Jemma is offering up her perspective and tips for making the most of this weird and wonderful time of life. I hope you'll tune in, and that you'll find our conversation enlightening and helpful.
xoxo,
Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby
P.S. — If you want a personal growth expert to walk alongside you, whether you're in your 20s or not, schedule a free consultation.
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