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Bare Marriage

Episode 230: Why Evangelical Honeymoons Go So Badly feat. Jay Stringer

Mar 28, 2024
Relationship therapist Jay Stringer discusses the damaging impact of evangelical messages on honeymoons, emphasizing the importance of mutual care in sexual relationships. The podcast challenges harmful marriage advice and explores societal pressures on women's desires, highlighting the need for therapy and sexual education. It critiques evangelical notions of forgiveness and differentiation, emphasizing the dangers of unqualified pastors providing counseling on abusive issues. The conversation delves into the impact of evangelical messaging on marriages, promoting healthy beginnings and seeking expertise for better guidance.
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Quick takeaways

  • Evangelical sex teachings perpetuate harmful beliefs like men not needing emotional connection for sex, leading to entitlement and dissatisfaction.
  • Untrained pastors can propagate harmful beliefs on sex and marriage, highlighting the need for professional guidance in addressing sensitive topics.

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The Harmful Messages in Evangelical Sex Teachings

Evangelical sex teachings often perpetuate harmful beliefs and behaviors. Messages like men not needing emotional connection for sex while women need emotional intimacy before physical intimacy can lead to entitlement, lack of desire, and low window of tolerance. These teachings overlook individual desires and promote underdevelopment and emotional fusion in couples, leading to conflicts and dissatisfaction.

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