7 Signs You’re a People Pleaser & 7 Methods to Break This Habit

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Jul 7, 2023

Explore the intense world of people pleasing, where saying no feels impossible and over-apologizing becomes second nature. Discover the emotional toll of seeking validation and the nuances between healthy service and harmful behaviors. Learn practical strategies for effective communication and setting boundaries without confrontation. Embrace your individuality, engage in difficult conversations, and align your decisions with personal values. It's a journey towards authenticity and reclaiming your personal power.

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INSIGHT

People-Pleasing vs. Helping

People-pleasing prioritizes others' happiness, often at the expense of our own well-being.
It involves de-prioritizing personal needs and desires to gain external validation.

INSIGHT

Purpose vs. Pleasing

Serving with purpose involves self-care to effectively help others.
People-pleasing seeks validation through pleasing others, neglecting personal well-being.

INSIGHT

Sociotrophic vs. Autonomous

Sociotropic individuals rely on social acceptance for self-esteem.
Autonomous individuals base self-esteem on achievement and independence.

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Have you ever found yourself constantly trying to please others, putting their needs before your own?

What is it like to be a people pleaser, always seeking validation and acceptance from those around you?

If you want to know more about this trait and how to overcome it, then this episode is for you.

Join me as I uncover the deep-rooted struggles of saying no, over-apologizing, and failing to communicate our own needs. We get to understand the pain of feeling rejected and left out, and the challenges of being overly agreeable and avoiding conflict.

Finally, we will explore the lengths we go to in order to avoid being disliked or hated. Through this exploration, we gain insights into the human condition and learn how to break free from the cycle of people-pleasing.

Here’s what you’ll learn today:

- How to say NO nicely and effectively

- How to stop over apologizing in situations you have no control over

- How to properly communicate your needs and thoughts

- How to openly voice out your opinions without being combative

- How to stop the habit of people pleasing

Prepare to embark on a journey of self-discovery and empowerment as we navigate the path towards authenticity and reclaiming our personal power.

With Love and Gratitude,

Jay Shetty

What We Discuss:

00:00 Intro
02:31 Are you a people pleaser? What is it like to be one?
07:51 What are sociotropic individuals, and have you met one?
11:25 Trait #1: You struggle to say NO
17:49 Trait #2: You constantly over apologize
21:59 Trait #3: You do not communicate your NEEDS
24:05 Trait #4: You often feel rejected and left out
26:39 Trait #5: You tend to be agreeable and
30:18 Trait #6: You avoid conflict or tough conversations
31:56 Trait #7: You become anything and do anything to not be hated

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