The Diary Of A CEO with Steven Bartlett Moment 150: The REAL (& Usually Unseen) Reason You’re Struggling With Love & Relationships!: Logan Ury
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Feb 23, 2024 
Logan Ury, a relationship expert and behavioral scientist, sheds light on attachment styles and their impact on love. She explains how these styles shape our dating patterns and emotional triggers, prompting us to push partners away. Importantly, she reveals that 25% of people can change their attachment style by identifying triggers and practicing self-awareness. Ury also discusses navigating modern digital relationships and the power of vulnerability in fostering deep connections, reminding us that understanding ourselves is key to finding lasting love.
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Attachment Theory's Importance
- Attachment theory helps you understand yourself, past patterns, and who you are attracted to.
- It explains why we push people away, revealing how our brains protect us from potential hurt.
Avoidant Attachment Example
- Logan Ury describes an avoidant attachment trigger: a partner staying too long after a sleepover.
- Deactivating strategies, like criticizing the partner, push them away, leading to protest behaviors such as abruptly calling an Uber.
Communicate Clearly
- Communicate your needs clearly instead of assuming others will understand.
- For example, if you want someone to leave, express it politely but directly.