The Psychology of your 20s 241. Are we our own worst critic?
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Oct 22, 2024 The podcast delves into the harsh reality of being our own worst critic. It explores how self-criticism is rooted in childhood experiences and societal pressures. The conversation highlights the role of social media in exacerbating these feelings, encouraging listeners to embrace radical self-compassion. Techniques like cognitive diffusion are discussed to help combat negative self-talk. Ultimately, it emphasizes the need for self-acceptance and recognizing that others are not scrutinizing us as closely as we think.
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Self-Criticism vs. Self-Awareness
- Self-criticism is distinct from self-awareness, as it's automatic and often feels uncontrollable.
- It's excessively negative, believed to be true, and negatively impacts our lives.
Inner Critic and Superego
- The "inner critic" is a subpersonality that judges and demeans us, theorized as a manifestation of our superego.
- The superego internalizes societal and parental expectations, regulating our actions from childhood.
Judging Ourselves vs. Others
- We scrutinize ourselves more harshly than others due to different brain regions being used for self-judgment versus judging others.
- We're more attuned to our behaviors for survival.