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The Hardcore Self Help Podcast with Duff the Psych

432: What is High-Functioning Codependency? Terri Cole

Feb 28, 2025
Terri Cole, a licensed psychotherapist and boundary expert, shares her journey from talent agent to therapist, motivated by her own struggles with codependency. She defines high-functioning codependency and discusses its roots in childhood and societal expectations. Terri offers practical tools for recognizing and breaking free from these patterns, emphasizing the importance of boundaries and self-awareness. The conversation also addresses the complexities of family dynamics amidst political discord, providing strategies for maintaining harmony.
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  • Terri Cole emphasizes the significance of recognizing high-functioning codependency patterns in oneself to foster healthier relationships and personal well-being.
  • Establishing and communicating boundaries is crucial for reclaiming autonomy, as societal conditioning often leads to self-abandonment in favor of pleasing others.

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Understanding High-Functioning Codependency

High-functioning codependency is characterized by an overwhelming investment in the emotional states and circumstances of others, often at the expense of one's own well-being. This pattern can lead to feelings of dissatisfaction and a lack of authenticity in one's life, as individuals may feel compelled to check societal boxes rather than pursue their true desires. The pressure to appear competent and in control can mask the underlying struggles of high-functioning codependents, who often feel responsible for the happiness and outcomes of those around them. Recognizing this behavior is the first step towards breaking the cycle and fostering healthier relationships.

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