The AAMFT Podcast Episode #128: The Importance of Therapist “Way of Being”
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May 23, 2025 
In this engaging discussion, Stephen Fife, an associate professor and director at Texas Tech University, and Jason Whiting, MFT program director at Brigham Young University, delve into the profound impact of a therapist's presence. Their insights cover the critical role of the therapeutic relationship, emphasizing empathy and authentic connection. They explore Martin Buber's philosophical concepts of 'I-thou' and 'I-it' as essential to fostering healing. The conversation highlights the importance of relational dynamics, advocating for collaborative, client-centered practices.
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I-Thou vs I-It Relationship
- Martin Buber's concept of "I-Thou" vs. "I-It" highlights two fundamental ways humans relate to others.
- "I-Thou" involves mutual presence and respect, while "I-It" reduces others to objects or obstacles.
Prioritize Client Over Protocol
- Therapists must prioritize the person over rigidly following treatment plans or homework.
- Question if an intervention fits the client instead of forcing compliance to promote therapeutic alliance.
Pre-planned Intervention Fails
- Steve Fife once tried a solution-focused approach pre-planned for a session without truly knowing the client.
- The session was a disaster because his intervention did not fit the client's needs at the moment.
