The Adversity Advantage with Doug Bopst CIA Spy: How To Control Conversations, Charm Anyone & Instantly Spot Liars | Andrew Bustamante
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Oct 6, 2025 
Andrew Bustamante, a former CIA covert officer and founder of EverydaySpy.com, shares fascinating insights into mastering conversation and detecting deception. He discusses techniques like the 'two questions and a confirmation' method for building trust and highlights the importance of listening over observing. Bustamante also provides strategies for identifying liars and emphasizes maintaining honesty in relationships while managing manipulative interactions. His unique perspective on dealing with deceit and using negativity as feedback makes for an enlightening discussion.
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Two Questions And A Confirmation
- Use the "two questions and a confirmation" sequence to control conversations and build trust.
- Ask an open question, follow up, then confirm what they said to make them feel safe.
Choose Productive People Only
- Ruthlessly prioritize people who help you produce and avoid resource-consuming relationships.
- State your beliefs clearly to create an artificial divide that attracts aligned partners.
Being Repulsive Can Be Strategic
- Being universally likable dilutes trust; repel some people to attract the right ones.
- Deep trust from fewer aligned people is more valuable than broad superficial liking.
