Join Forrest and Dr. Rick, two “reformed rigid people,” as they explore how to become more psychologically flexible. Just as physical flexibility is the amount of stretch in our muscles, the ability they have to bend without breaking, psychological flexibility is the same quality in our minds. It enables us to approach situations from new perspectives, be open to our emotions, let go of old versions of ourselves, and step into new ways of being.
In this episode, they discuss the concept of rigidity as a form of psychological defense and explore the motivations behind it. They also delve into the trap of assumptions and limiting beliefs, the importance of releasing attachments, and the benefits of embracing new ways of thinking.
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Key Topics:
0:00: Introduction
1:35: Choice, and the tradeoff between flexibility and speed
2:55: Rigidity, agency, and flexibility in relationship
7:50: Behavioral vs. psychological choices
10:30: The dock and the river, and self-protection
15:40: Inflexibility as a means to an end
17:30 Tools to inquire into your rigidities
20:50: When others’ behavior isn’t about you
23:20: Assumptions and limiting beliefs
27:35: Willingness to change, and comfort in feeling change
34:10: Releasing attachment to your ‘place’
39:50: Understanding the function of your rigidity
41:35: Over-identification with goals and accomplishments
44:40: Stepping into the river
45:20: Recap
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