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Lust Management | Jay Stringer #622

May 3, 2023
Jay Stringer, a licensed mental health counselor and trauma expert, joins the hosts to discuss the importance of facing trauma and pain for healing and growth. They explore lust management, understanding the origin of pornography addiction, managing sexual desires in couples, maintaining identity in a relationship, and exploring uncommon topics. They emphasize the significance of having empathetic witnesses and individual work for personal growth.
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Quick takeaways

  • Trauma is not just what happened to us, but also what happens inside of us in the absence of an empathetic witness, highlighting the importance of constructing a bridge between the present and the past to foster healing and growth.
  • Differentiating between the crisis stage and the meaning making stage when working through betrayal trauma is crucial, with both partners needing to engage in their individual journeys to address unresolved issues and recast a vision of the marriage that promotes healing and growth.

Deep dives

The Origin of Trauma and Its Effects on Behavior

In this episode, the speaker discusses how trauma is not just what happened to us, but also what happens inside of us in the absence of an empathetic witness. He highlights the importance of understanding the origin story of harmful behaviors and the need to construct a bridge between the present and the past. By honoring the soothing and attachment developed during difficult times, individuals can work towards growing a self capable of moving through distress without relying on unhealthy coping mechanisms.

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