63. Not For People Pleasing + Other Obvious Realizations That Changed Our Lives
Mar 7, 2024
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This podcast delves into adult friendships, people pleasing breakthroughs, and the struggle of putting on a show in social situations. Are you really an introvert or just draining your social battery? Plus, giggles about bell pepper dilemmas, corporate lingo, and a life-changing weekend hack. Let's hang, dawgs!
Balancing spontaneous activities on Saturdays with planned socializing on Sundays can enhance weekend satisfaction.
Coordinating group trips requires time to accommodate conflicting schedules, budgets, and personal preferences.
Setting boundaries while hosting can alleviate stress and create a more comfortable social environment for both hosts and guests.
Deep dives
Prioritizing Spontaneity in Weekends
Organizing weekends to balance spontaneity and socialization can lead to fulfilling experiences. By making Saturdays more flexible and leaving room for impromptu activities while reserving Sundays for socializing, individuals can manage their time effectively. This approach allows for completing tasks on Saturdays to enjoy quality time with friends on Sundays, reducing anxiety and enhancing overall weekend satisfaction.
Challenges of Group Trip Planning
Coordinating group trips can be challenging due to conflicting schedules and individual constraints. The process of selecting a suitable date that accommodates everyone's availability can be time-consuming and complicated. Factors such as varying PTO days, budget limitations, and differing preferences among friends can hinder the planning process, leading to delays or cancellations.
Finding Balance in Hosting and Being Hosted
Balancing hosting responsibilities and personal space can impact social interactions. The pressure to entertain or accommodate guests may result in feeling drained or stressed. Establishing boundaries and communicating preferences for downtime during visits can create a more comfortable hosting experience. Setting realistic expectations and mutual understanding among guests can foster relaxed and enjoyable interactions.
Overcoming the Anxiety of Pre-Planning Conversations
The podcast discusses the speaker's experience of feeling overwhelmed when pre-planning conversations, having to anticipate what to say to show up well. The speaker highlights the moment they shifted to being present in the conversation, allowing topics to naturally arise. By avoiding overthinking and pre-planning, conversations flowed organically, leading to a more enjoyable interaction without the pressure of pre-determined scripts.
Setting Boundaries to Manage People-Pleasing Behavior
In the podcast, the speaker shares a story about setting boundaries with a neighbor who constantly engaged in lengthy conversations and texts. By politely adjusting their responses to limit lengthy interactions, the speaker successfully reduced the neighbor's excessive communication. This experience prompted the speaker to reflect on the fear of not being liked due to setting boundaries and the importance of prioritizing personal well-being over constant people-pleasing.
This week, adult friendships are back on Jess and Caroline’s minds. They talk through how to schedule a girl's trip, their qualms with hosting, people pleasing breakthroughs, and how they each put on a show in social situations. They get to the bottom of this realization: are you really an introvert—or are you draining your social battery by performing?
Plus, there’s still plenty of giggling about bell pepper dilemmas, horrific corporate lingo, and a new weekend hack that might change your life. Let’s hang, dawgs.
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This episode was produced by none other than our prince, Abi Newhouse. DM her for your audio editing needs!
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DISCLAIMER: All opinions are our own. We are not therapists or health professionals, or professional of any kind, really. Please see your own professional or counselor for professional support. Do your research and be safe!
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