

Not For Everyone
Not For Everyone
Not for Everyone is a podcast hosted by a hater (Caroline Winkler) and a lover (Jess DeBakey). We're just two sweet kooks getting carried away being ourselves, waxing poetic on every topic we care too much about. Come for the humor, stay for the honesty. We know we’re not for everyone, but we bet we are for you.
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Dec 11, 2025 • 1h 12min
151. Not for Candy Canes + Debating Dumb Topics to Avoid Our Work Stress
This podcast is sponsored by Aura Frames. Get $35 off the Carver Mat at https://on.auraframes.com/SCIENTIST with code SCIENTIST.Go to https://www.hellofresh.com/notforeveryone10fm now to Get 10 Free Meals + a Free breakfast for Life!__Kooks, welcome to another week of takes that are not for everyone! Jess and Caroline jump right in with a discussion on how we should be able to disagree with each other without it meaning the relationship is damned. They talk about those friends who just love to debate, and then try out a few This-or-Thats to see if they can get into fights with each other.Then Jess dives deep into why she’s felt work overwhelm for the past little while, and they problem-solve how to prioritize schedules, in both corporate jobs and for self-employed people. And what a convenient segue into doubling down on why remote work kind of blows! Then they end with a few complaints about compliments and drinks. ‘Tis the season! This episode was produced by our prince, Abi Newhouse (@abinewhouse). __Share with a friend!Follow, rate, and review on your favorite podcasting app!Subscribe on YOUTUBE for full episode video:youtube.com/@Not4EveryonePodPlus follow us on INSTAGRAM for more:@not4everyonepod@thegoodsitter@jzdebakeyYou can DM us there or submit topics for an upcoming episode to not4everyonepod@gmail.com.And don't forget about our APPAREL:nfepodapparel.com__Intro Music: “Doja Dance” by PALA__DISCLAIMER: All opinions are our own. We are not therapists or health professionals, or professional of any kind, really. Please see your own professional or counselor for professional support. Do your research and be safe!

Dec 4, 2025 • 1h 12min
150. Ask Us Anything + Hot Takes That Will Get Us Fired from the Internet
This podcast is sponsored by Aura Frames. Get $35 off the Carver Mat at https://on.auraframes.com/SCIENTIST with code SCIENTIST.Shop our favorite pajamas at https://skims.com/. Be sure to let them know we sent you by selecting "podcast" in the dropdown menu following checkout. __Happy three years to N4E! Jess and Caroline reflect about their time as podcast co-hosts, and then dive into a couple complaints about, well, talking to each other on the internet. They discuss the difference between in-person conversations and online ones, activism on the internet, and they do a little follow-up on some of their hottest takes that got them in the throes of internet anger. Then, they launch into a few listener-submitted questions! They discuss everything from nasty sex questions to celebrity crushes to what they judge people about to guilty pleasures. They end with a little love fest about all they’ve accomplished together and offer a few kisses, just for you. This episode was produced by our prince, Abi Newhouse (@abinewhouse). __Share with a friend!Follow, rate, and review on your favorite podcasting app!Subscribe on YOUTUBE for full episode video:youtube.com/@Not4EveryonePodPlus follow us on INSTAGRAM for more:@not4everyonepod@thegoodsitter@jzdebakeyYou can DM us there or submit topics for an upcoming episode to not4everyonepod@gmail.com.And don't forget about our APPAREL:nfepodapparel.com__Intro Music: “Doja Dance” by PALA__DISCLAIMER: All opinions are our own. We are not therapists or health professionals, or professional of any kind, really. Please see your own professional or counselor for professional support. Do your research and be safe!

Nov 27, 2025 • 1h 19min
149. Ask A Therapist: In-Laws, Sex, and the Stuff You're Not Talking About | ft. Kate Berman, AMFT
This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Get 10% off your first month at https://BetterHelp.com/NOTFOREVERYONE__Happy Holidays, kooks! Today, Jess and Caroline call in an expert - who also happens to be one of Jess’s closest friends: Kate Berman, AMFT - to discuss your WHATADOs just in time for that awkward family dinner.They start off strong with a question about whether the listener should join her boyfriend’s family vacation even after his father seemed less than pleased with the idea. Then they move into a question about unexpected divorce, which leads them down a rabbit hole on the pain of being misrepresented. Kate shares her insights on when couples therapy is most valuable before the three dive into their last juicy WHATADO: all about if you’re having enough sex in your relationship. What if we divest from society’s expectations? What if we accept that there are seasons to our sex lives? They explore it all, just for you.Kate is an Associate Marriage and Family Therapist (AMFT) who is passionate about helping clients increase self-awareness, harness their innate strengths, and ultimately improve the quality of their relationships - with self, loved ones, the environment, and their sense of purpose. Drawing on her interdisciplinary background in psychology, yoga, and public health, she helps clients explore the root causes of their challenges and the beliefs that keep them feeling stuck. If you are based in California and looking for support, learn more and reach out to her here.This episode was produced by our prince, Abi Newhouse (@abinewhouse). __Share with a friend!Follow, rate, and review on your favorite podcasting app!Subscribe on YOUTUBE for full episode video:youtube.com/@Not4EveryonePodPlus follow us on INSTAGRAM for more:@not4everyonepod@thegoodsitter@jzdebakeyYou can DM us there or submit topics for an upcoming episode to not4everyonepod@gmail.com.And don't forget about our APPAREL:nfepodapparel.com__Intro Music: “Doja Dance” by PALA__DISCLAIMER: All opinions are our own. We are not therapists or health professionals, or professional of any kind, really. Please see your own professional or counselor for professional support. Do your research and be safe!

Nov 20, 2025 • 1h 16min
148. Not for Business Class + When You Aren't Cut Out for the Soft Life
Go to https://Zocdoc.com/NOTFOREVERYONE to find and instantly book a top-rated doctor today. #sponsored __The duo is back after a couple vacations, and they’ve got a lot to say about travel. First up, a complaint about business class flights, some thoughts on international airlines, and some ideas about cafe culture and different paces in life. Plus…you don’t want to miss another shocking Instagram story, this time involving button quails. Jess and Caroline talk about how to make money in the digital world, respect for the risque hustle, why limited options actually make you work a little harder, and the reason cold-calling is pretty annoying. Glad to be back, kooks! This episode was produced by our prince, Abi Newhouse (@abinewhouse). __Share with a friend!Follow, rate, and review on your favorite podcasting app!Subscribe on YOUTUBE for full episode video:youtube.com/@Not4EveryonePodPlus follow us on INSTAGRAM for more:@not4everyonepod@thegoodsitter@jzdebakeyYou can DM us there or submit topics for an upcoming episode to not4everyonepod@gmail.com.And don't forget about our APPAREL:nfepodapparel.com__Intro Music: “Doja Dance” by PALA__DISCLAIMER: All opinions are our own. We are not therapists or health professionals, or professional of any kind, really. Please see your own professional or counselor for professional support. Do your research and be safe!

Nov 13, 2025 • 58min
147. Love Letter: Purpose Without Parenthood + The Only Way to Get That Friend Back
Shop our favorite pajamas at SKIMS.com. After you place your order, be sure to let them know we sent you! Get 10% off your first month at https://BetterHelp.com/NOTFOREVERYONEGo to https://www.hellofresh.com/notforeveryone10fm now to Get 10 Free Meals + a Free breakfast for Life!__If you woke up feeling all lovey dovey, it’s probably because you just KNEW a Love Letter was coming for you <3. Jess is here post-vacation to talk through some listener-submitted WHATADOs. She starts with a question about friends drifting apart right before a wedding, and dives deep into ego in friendships and also just…missing each other.Next up is a WHATADO about finding purpose when you don’t want kids. Jess talks all about the definition of “loved ones” and “community” and urges listeners to expect the best instead of the worst when going against the grain. She wraps up the episode with a hot take on the viral “Is It Embarrassing to Have a Boyfriend” article, and a couple artsy updates. Kisses!This episode was produced by our prince, Abi Newhouse (@abinewhouse). Subscribe to Prince Abi's Substack at www.abinewhouse.substack.com.And listen to Jess's Peaking podcast here! __Share with a friend!Follow, rate, and review on your favorite podcasting app!Subscribe on YOUTUBE for full episode video:youtube.com/@Not4EveryonePodPlus follow us on INSTAGRAM for more:@not4everyonepod@thegoodsitter@jzdebakeyYou can DM us there or submit topics for an upcoming episode to not4everyonepod@gmail.com.And don't forget about our APPAREL:nfepodapparel.com__Intro Music: “Doja Dance” by PALA__DISCLAIMER: All opinions are our own. We are not therapists or health professionals, or professional of any kind, really. Please see your own professional or counselor for professional support. Do your research and be safe!

Nov 6, 2025 • 1h 11min
146. Not for Whole Foods + The Vibes Are Off at Girls Night, and We Know Why
Explore the quirks of Whole Foods as Jess and Caroline vent about its vibe and prices, while loving the coffee. They navigate the complexities of household chores, bonding over home design projects that spark joy. Jess's decision to delete Instagram brings a refreshing focus to their lives, sparking a discussion on social balance. They contemplate the joy of home gatherings over clubbing, and suggest replacing nights out with private dance parties—because sometimes, it's all about the right vibe at home!

Oct 30, 2025 • 1h
145. Hater Hour ft. My Fiancé Justin | A Feel-Good Hater Powwow
It’s Hater Hour up in here! But not just one hater; Caroline’s fiancé Justin is also joining the chat, and boy if he isn’t a sassy baby. The two start out by discussing some of Justin’s personal hates: the phrase “you’re allowed to feel that way” and people’s obsession with outer space. Then, a third hater joins: their cat, Whitley! They chat all about why they got the cat and what Whitley has meant to their lives so far.But wait, there’s more! They dive into toxic patterns of people they used to date, feeling alive in relationships, and ideas about home renovations. And then some more complaints: air travel and lack of community. Are they all doom and gloom, though? You’ll just have to see! This episode was produced by our prince, Abi Newhouse (@abinewhouse). __Share with a friend!Follow, rate, and review on your favorite podcasting app!Subscribe on YOUTUBE for full episode video:youtube.com/@Not4EveryonePodPlus follow us on INSTAGRAM for more:@not4everyonepod@thegoodsitter@jzdebakeyYou can DM us there or submit topics for an upcoming episode to not4everyonepod@gmail.com.And don't forget about our APPAREL:nfepodapparel.com__Intro Music: “Doja Dance” by PALA__DISCLAIMER: All opinions are our own. We are not therapists or health professionals, or professional of any kind, really. Please see your own professional or counselor for professional support. Do your research and be safe!

Oct 23, 2025 • 1h 11min
144. Am I The Hater: When Your Friend's New Relationship Is Ruining Everything
Go to https://zocdoc.com/notforeveryone to find and instantly book a top-rated doctor today. __Hello to our haters and lovers! Though today, the haters are really shining. Jess and Caroline read through a few listener submissions for their series Am I The Hater? Topics include taking a roommate’s absence personally, pointing out a friend’s boyfriend’s babyface, and canceling on attending a wedding for a curious reason.Of course, these questions turn into deeper conversations, where J and C ruminate on judgement replacing communication, learning who your friends really are, what acceptance really means, and the give/take process in relationships. If you’re the hater, we don’t want to be the lover, because these crazy behaviors belong to our type of people. This episode was produced by our prince, Abi Newhouse (@abinewhouse). __Share with a friend!Follow, rate, and review on your favorite podcasting app!Subscribe on YOUTUBE for full episode video:youtube.com/@Not4EveryonePodPlus follow us on INSTAGRAM for more:@not4everyonepod@thegoodsitter@jzdebakeyYou can DM us there or submit topics for an upcoming episode to not4everyonepod@gmail.com.And don't forget about our APPAREL:nfepodapparel.com__Intro Music: “Doja Dance” by PALA__DISCLAIMER: All opinions are our own. We are not therapists or health professionals, or professional of any kind, really. Please see your own professional or counselor for professional support. Do your research and be safe!

Oct 16, 2025 • 1h 22min
143. Not for High School + Why Your Existential Crisis Keeps Coming Back
Get 10% off your first month at https://BetterHelp.com/NOTFOREVERYONECheck out the lace Fits Everybody Collection at https://skims.com/notforeveryone #skimspartner __If you find yourself looking back at high school and wondering…what was that? You’re not alone. Jess and Caroline start out the episode ruminating on the universal feeling of trying to fit in while feeling very alone at pivotal ages in our lives. This conversation leads into a deeper thought spiral about insecurity, constantly seeking for meaning, and why organized religion isn’t always the answer.Plus, J and C follow up on their homework assignment: were they able to not step in to save a potential awkward social situation? Could they not act over-the-top for the express purpose of making someone else feel validated? You’ll just have to find out. This episode was produced by our prince, Abi Newhouse (@abinewhouse). __Share with a friend!Follow, rate, and review on your favorite podcasting app!Subscribe on YOUTUBE for full episode video:youtube.com/@Not4EveryonePodPlus follow us on INSTAGRAM for more:@not4everyonepod@thegoodsitter@jzdebakeyYou can DM us there or submit topics for an upcoming episode to not4everyonepod@gmail.com.And don't forget about our APPAREL:nfepodapparel.com__Intro Music: “Doja Dance” by PALA__DISCLAIMER: All opinions are our own. We are not therapists or health professionals, or professional of any kind, really. Please see your own professional or counselor for professional support. Do your research and be safe!

Oct 9, 2025 • 1h 26min
142. Not for Hard Work + Parasocial Relationships and the Perception of Authenticity
This episode is sponsored by Hello Fresh. Get up to 10 FREE meals at https://hellofresh.com/NOTFOREVERYONE10FM__What’s up, kooks? Ever had a parasocial relationship? Us, too. Jess and Caroline discuss the creators they relate to, why those relationships are special, and why they’re kind of weird, too. Up next: a complaint! J has a weird retail experience, which leads the two to discuss the weird blame game people play, and how built-up resentment equals the end of customer service. Then, they discuss motivation from another angle. It’s kind of a chicken/egg situation: does motivation come first, or does action come first and then motivation? They ruminate on the difference between motivation and momentum, and consider that passion may just be a part of the grind. Is it luck or hard work? Plus, ‘tis the season: C has been having some wedding-related nightmares…P.S. Here’s the Peaking episode that Jess referenced on the fallacy of hard work.This episode was produced by our prince, Abi Newhouse (@abinewhouse). __Share with a friend!Follow, rate, and review on your favorite podcasting app!Subscribe on YOUTUBE for full episode video:youtube.com/@Not4EveryonePodPlus follow us on INSTAGRAM for more:@not4everyonepod@thegoodsitter@jzdebakeyYou can DM us there or submit topics for an upcoming episode to not4everyonepod@gmail.com.And don't forget about our APPAREL:nfepodapparel.com__Intro Music: “Doja Dance” by PALA__DISCLAIMER: All opinions are our own. We are not therapists or health professionals, or professional of any kind, really. Please see your own professional or counselor for professional support. Do your research and be safe!


