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Jun 26, 2025 • 1h 12min

128. Hot Not Bothered Summer: Decoding Your Most Maddening Dating Problems (So You Don’t Have To)

This show is sponsored by BetterHelp. Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠betterhelp.com/notforeveryone⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ today to get 10% off your first month.__Do you feel that heat wave? We’re not bothered. It’s time for Jess and Caroline to enter the dating waters once more, to discuss listener’s burning questions about all things modern love. They start by talking through a love interest who doesn’t communicate well, weigh the pros and cons of sharing location with your partner, and then discuss the phenomenon of catching feelings only for your crush to pull away.They round out the episode by figuring out what it means when the person you're dating updates their dating profile, which leads into a deeper discussion about overanalyzing, asking the hard questions early, and identifying patterns in order to believe yourself. Get ready to feel empowered, kooks.This episode was produced by our prince, Abi Newhouse (⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@abinewhouse⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠). ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠__Share with a friend!Follow, rate, and review on your favorite podcasting app!Subscribe on YOUTUBE for full episode video:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠youtube.com/@Not4EveryonePod⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Plus follow us on INSTAGRAM for more:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@not4everyonepod⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@thegoodsitter⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@jzdebakey⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠You can DM us there or submit topics for an upcoming episode to ⁠⁠⁠not4everyonepod@gmail.com⁠⁠⁠.And don't forget about our APPAREL:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠nfepodapparel.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠__Intro Music: “Doja Dance” by PALA__DISCLAIMER: All opinions are our own. We are not therapists or health professionals, or professional of any kind, really. Please see your own professional or counselor for professional support. Do your research and be safe!
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Jun 19, 2025 • 1h 6min

127. Not for Catch-Ups + How to Handle Friendship When You’re At Capacity

Go to ⁠https://zocdoc.com/notforeveryone ⁠to find and instantly book a top-rated doctor today. __Kooks, do you ever find yourself overwhelmed by a missed call from a long-distance friend? Or inundated with requests for in-person hangs? Jess and Caroline talk through feeling crazy for complaining about friendship, even though the social overwhelm is STRONG right now. J offers some tips to a friend who called in to the pod about these very problems, and guides C through her own similar issues.Plus, the two discuss a new skincare routine, boundaries in friendship, Sherpa guides, and of course, the fact that Hot Not Bothered Summer is back next week! Get your notebook ready…there’s some hot tips in this episode to help you feel sane.This episode was produced by our prince, Abi Newhouse (⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@abinewhouse⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠). ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠__Share with a friend!Follow, rate, and review on your favorite podcasting app!Subscribe on YOUTUBE for full episode video:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠youtube.com/@Not4EveryonePod⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Plus follow us on INSTAGRAM for more:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@not4everyonepod⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@thegoodsitter⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@jzdebakey⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠You can DM us there or submit topics for an upcoming episode to ⁠⁠not4everyonepod@gmail.com⁠⁠.And don't forget about our APPAREL:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠nfepodapparel.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠__Intro Music: “Doja Dance” by PALA__DISCLAIMER: All opinions are our own. We are not therapists or health professionals, or professional of any kind, really. Please see your own professional or counselor for professional support. Do your research and be safe!
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Jun 12, 2025 • 1h 16min

126. For You: Living Proof That You Can Heal From Your Ex

This show is sponsored by BetterHelp. Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠betterhelp.com/notforeveryone⁠⁠⁠⁠ today to get 10% off your first month.Check out the Fits Everybody Collection at ⁠⁠https://www.skims.com/notforeveryone⁠⁠ #skimspartner__Well babies, we’ve come full circle. Or, at least, Caroline and Jess have! In this episode, they discuss seeing an ex in a happy relationship, getting an apology from an ex years later, and trusting your feelings in a relationship that doesn’t feel quite right. They answer a WHATADO from a listener about the trauma of on-again-off-again relationships and how to understand “signs” in a new relationship once you’ve finally got out.Plus, there’s plenty of kooking to be done. J and C head down a rabbit hole trying to answer one question: where did all the frozen yogurt shops go? Don’t lie—you know you miss them, too. This episode was produced by our prince, Abi Newhouse (⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@abinewhouse⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠). ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠__Share with a friend!Follow, rate, and review on your favorite podcasting app!Subscribe on YOUTUBE for full episode video:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠youtube.com/@Not4EveryonePod⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Plus follow us on INSTAGRAM for more:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@not4everyonepod⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@thegoodsitter⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@jzdebakey⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠You can DM us there or submit topics for an upcoming episode to ⁠⁠not4everyonepod@gmail.com⁠⁠.And don't forget about our APPAREL:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠nfepodapparel.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠__Intro Music: “Doja Dance” by PALA__DISCLAIMER: All opinions are our own. We are not therapists or health professionals, or professional of any kind, really. Please see your own professional or counselor for professional support. Do your research and be safe!
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Jun 5, 2025 • 1h 2min

125. Not for Crystals + Where Are You Putting Your Energy?

The hosts dive into the tricky dynamics of friendships and when to share your energy. They humorously tackle the impact of AI in ads, questioning authenticity in robotic voices. A light-hearted discussion on crystals and pronunciation quirks adds flavor, while the complexities of navigating sleep and health challenges resonate deeply. Personal anecdotes underscore pressures of youth, contrasting them with newfound freedom. It's a lively mix of reflection, humor, and genuine insight into modern life!
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May 29, 2025 • 1h 10min

124. Hot Not Bothered Summer: Holding Your Standards in the Disappointment That is Modern Dating

It’s the first ever edition of Hot Not Bothered Summer! In this series, Jess and Caroline answer listener’s burning questions about all things dating, and they start out with a bang. They discuss giving men the benefit of the doubt when you’re jaded, how to use dating apps in an intentional way, the best things to ask on a first date, and how to handle a situationship.Plus, they dive a little deeper into the “hunt” of dating, what emotional baggage is/is not allowed to bring to new relationships, listening vs. talking, and above all, understanding that what you feel is the most important data. Let’s make this a summer of love, babies! Kisses! This episode was produced by our prince, Abi Newhouse (⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@abinewhouse⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠). ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠__Share with a friend!Follow, rate, and review on your favorite podcasting app!Subscribe on YOUTUBE for full episode video:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ youtube.com/@Not4EveryonePod⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Plus follow us on INSTAGRAM for more:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@not4everyonepod⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@thegoodsitter⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@jzdebakey⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠And don't forget about our apparel:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠nfepodapparel.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠__Intro Music: “Doja Dance” by PALA__DISCLAIMER: All opinions are our own. We are not therapists or health professionals, or professional of any kind, really. Please see your own professional or counselor for professional support. Do your research and be safe!
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May 22, 2025 • 1h 5min

123. Not for Hiccups + Embracing Your Feminine Rage

This show is sponsored by BetterHelp. Visit ⁠⁠⁠betterhelp.com/notforeveryone⁠⁠⁠ today to get 10% off your first month.__Babies, it’s time to get in touch with your rage. This week, Jess and Caroline talk about feeling rage for yourself and on behalf of others, why we’re actually happier in our 30s, and the freedom you feel when you don’t worry what others think about you.Then a listener WHATADO leads them to discuss the chasm between friends in different life stages, the pressures of marriage, and how to connect even when your life feels so different from your friend’s. Plus, stay tuned for an R-rated sex hack, thoughts on psychedelic research, and more about the new summer series. Kisses! This episode was produced by our prince, Abi Newhouse (⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@abinewhouse⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠). ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠__Share with a friend!Follow, rate, and review on your favorite podcasting app!Subscribe on YOUTUBE for full episode video:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ youtube.com/@Not4EveryonePod⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Plus follow us on INSTAGRAM for more:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@not4everyonepod⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@thegoodsitter⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@jzdebakey⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠And don't forget about our apparel:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠nfepodapparel.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠__Intro Music: “Doja Dance” by PALA__DISCLAIMER: All opinions are our own. We are not therapists or health professionals, or professional of any kind, really. Please see your own professional or counselor for professional support. Do your research and be safe!
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May 15, 2025 • 1h 9min

122. Not for Goals + Complaints About Hobbies, Love on the Spectrum, and Other Influencers

Go to https://zocdoc.com/notforeveryone to find and instantly book a top-rated doctor today. Check out SKIMS best intimates including the Fits Everybody Collection and more at https://www.skims.com/notforeveryone #skimspartner__Turn out the lights and get comfy, because today is a total sleepover-vibe episode. Jess and Caroline discuss weird-shaped cookie cutters, baking reality tv, and the satisfaction of untangling a necklace, before diving deeper on their thoughts about Love on the Spectrum.This conversation leads them to ruminate on how different generations interact with the internet and how seeing ourselves more affects us in good and bad ways. Plus, they discuss some “gross girl books,” the cons of audiobooks, and of course, Beyonce. Nighty night, kooks!This episode was produced by our prince, Abi Newhouse (⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@abinewhouse⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠). ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠__Share with a friend!Follow, rate, and review on your favorite podcasting app!Subscribe on YOUTUBE for full episode video:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠youtube.com/@Not4EveryonePod⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Plus follow us on INSTAGRAM for more:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@not4everyonepod⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@thegoodsitter⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@jzdebakey⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠You can DM us there or submit topics for an upcoming episode to ⁠not4everyonepod@gmail.com⁠.And don't forget about our APPAREL:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠nfepodapparel.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠__Intro Music: “Doja Dance” by PALA__DISCLAIMER: All opinions are our own. We are not therapists or health professionals, or professional of any kind, really. Please see your own professional or counselor for professional support. Do your research and be safe!
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May 8, 2025 • 1h 2min

121. Not for Long Lines + Hacks for Building Intimacy in Your Day-to-Day Relationships

Get up to 10 FREE meals at https://hellofresh.com/NOTFOREVERYONE10FM__Good morning, sunshines! This week, Jess and Caroline talk about a new friendship hack: the couple sleepover. They ruminate on casual, frequent hangouts, talk about spontaneous outings, and consider the sunken cost fallacy when it comes to an event not working out the way you envisioned.Plus, they chat about what they have trouble spending money on, a few things they are really glad they spent money on, and a couple annoying but necessary purchases. Jess updates us on reading books with Ryan, Caroline updates us on her month-long work break, and they end the episode by sharing a few heartfelt listener reviews. N4E kooks are the best kooks. This episode was produced by our prince, Abi Newhouse (⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@abinewhouse⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠). ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠__Share with a friend!Follow, rate, and review on your favorite podcasting app!Subscribe on YOUTUBE for full episode video:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠youtube.com/@Not4EveryonePod⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Plus follow us on INSTAGRAM for more:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@not4everyonepod⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@thegoodsitter⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@jzdebakey⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠You can DM us there or submit topics for an upcoming episode to not4everyonepod@gmail.com.And don't forget about our APPAREL:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠nfepodapparel.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠__Intro Music: “Doja Dance” by PALA__DISCLAIMER: All opinions are our own. We are not therapists or health professionals, or professional of any kind, really. Please see your own professional or counselor for professional support. Do your research and be safe!
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May 1, 2025 • 1h 14min

120. Your Biggest Icks, Our Hottest Takes: Irrational Reasons to Dump Every Last One of ‘Em

This show is sponsored by BetterHelp. Visit ⁠⁠betterhelp.com/notforeveryone⁠⁠ today to get 10% off your first month.__Icks. We all have one, we all are one. Jess and Caroline read listener submissions that, quite frankly, are indefensible—but that’s the point. You can’t explain an ick. They talk about anything from men’s gross feet to people drinking full glasses of milk to someone bragging about eating a bunch of exotic fruit. Warning: you will cringe.A few submissions lend to deeper conversations, like what we talk about and why, texting and communication woes, picky eaters, bad dates, and the weird phenomenon where men just don’t get the same icks women do. Buckle up, babies: you might recognize yourselves in some of these weird behaviors…This episode was produced by our prince, Abi Newhouse (⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@abinewhouse⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠). ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠__Share with a friend!Follow, rate, and review on your favorite podcasting app!Subscribe on YOUTUBE for full episode video:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ youtube.com/@Not4EveryonePod⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Plus follow us on INSTAGRAM for more:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@not4everyonepod⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@thegoodsitter⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@jzdebakey⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠And don't forget about our apparel:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠nfepodapparel.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠__Intro Music: “Doja Dance” by PALA__DISCLAIMER: All opinions are our own. We are not therapists or health professionals, or professional of any kind, really. Please see your own professional or counselor for professional support. Do your research and be safe!
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Apr 24, 2025 • 1h 23min

119. Not for Revenge + Why Does No One Prepare Us for Adult Siblings?

Control Body Odor ANYWHERE with @lumedeodorant and get 15% off with promo code NOTFOREVERYONE at Lumedeodorant.com! #lumepod__Babies, let’s talk about relationships! But not just romantic relationships—Jess and Caroline are going deep on how families deal with conflict, hanging out with friends without your partner, and how siblings affect us. You heard it here first: sibling relationships, and not just birth order, are going to be the next pop psychology subject.Plus: J and C read a listener submitted email about the selfishness spectrum, and they try to place themselves within these bounds. This leads to a deeper conversation on “deserving” good things, takeaways from being wronged, and ways to learn to love yourself. Besides that, expect some thoughts on cramps, women’s pain, and accidental amphetamines. You know how it is. This episode was produced by our prince, Abi Newhouse (⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@abinewhouse⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠). ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠__Share with a friend!Follow, rate, and review on your favorite podcasting app!Subscribe on YOUTUBE for full episode video:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ youtube.com/@Not4EveryonePod⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Plus follow us on INSTAGRAM for more:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@not4everyonepod⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@thegoodsitter⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@jzdebakey⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠And don't forget about our apparel:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠nfepodapparel.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠__Intro Music: “Doja Dance” by PALA__DISCLAIMER: All opinions are our own. We are not therapists or health professionals, or professional of any kind, really. Please see your own professional or counselor for professional support. Do your research and be safe!

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