

Not For Everyone
Not For Everyone
Not for Everyone is a podcast hosted by a hater (Caroline Winkler) and a lover (Jess DeBakey). We're just two sweet kooks getting carried away being ourselves, waxing poetic on every topic we care too much about. Come for the humor, stay for the honesty. We know we’re not for everyone, but we bet we are for you.
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Subscribe on Youtube and follow on Instagram: @not4everyonepod
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Sep 4, 2025 • 1h 12min
137. Not for Sound Baths + The Real Reason You Feel Inexplicably Drained All the Time
This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at https://www.betterhelp.com/NOTFOREVERYONE and get on your way to being your best self.__Y’all! It’s time for the dumb phone update everyone’s been waiting for. Caroline and Jess talk through C’s transformative experience of being somewhat off the grid. They discuss all things phones and social media, from graphic design meant to keep you online to deleting social media to what they’re doing instead of scrolling.This conversation leads to deeper conclusions about being committed to having a life full of peace, and J ruminates on a random day out that led her to feel more alive than she has in a long time. They discuss the point of life, planning less, and letting boredom happen. Slow down babies! And warning: you’re gonna want to toss your phone after this one. More about Light Phone here: https://www.thelightphone.com/shop?ref=zdfknme This episode was produced by our prince, Abi Newhouse (@abinewhouse). __Share with a friend!Follow, rate, and review on your favorite podcasting app!Subscribe on YOUTUBE for full episode video:youtube.com/@Not4EveryonePodPlus follow us on INSTAGRAM for more:@not4everyonepod@thegoodsitter@jzdebakeyYou can DM us there or submit topics for an upcoming episode to not4everyonepod@gmail.com.And don't forget about our APPAREL:nfepodapparel.com__Intro Music: “Doja Dance” by PALA__DISCLAIMER: All opinions are our own. We are not therapists or health professionals, or professional of any kind, really. Please see your own professional or counselor for professional support. Do your research and be safe!

Aug 28, 2025 • 1h 13min
136. Hot Not Bothered Summer: Dealing with Rejection, Dating Droughts, and Friends Who Don’t Get It
Welcome to the last Hot Not Bothered episode! Jess and Caroline tackle some difficult WHATADOs, answering questions about how to date after trauma, how to approach being the only one in your friend group who’s dating, and how to accept being “too much” in the dating world. Plus, they talk about being wingmen, how to know if a relationship is good, themed get togethers, and the secret to letting loose and meeting people in public. Also, you don’t want to miss Jess’s stellar Office reference. I feel God in this podcast, what about you? This episode was produced by our prince, Abi Newhouse (@abinewhouse). __Share with a friend!Follow, rate, and review on your favorite podcasting app!Subscribe on YOUTUBE for full episode video:youtube.com/@Not4EveryonePodPlus follow us on INSTAGRAM for more:@not4everyonepod@thegoodsitter@jzdebakeyYou can DM us there or submit topics for an upcoming episode to not4everyonepod@gmail.com.And don't forget about our APPAREL:nfepodapparel.com__Intro Music: “Doja Dance” by PALA__DISCLAIMER: All opinions are our own. We are not therapists or health professionals, or professional of any kind, really. Please see your own professional or counselor for professional support. Do your research and be safe!

Aug 21, 2025 • 1h 13min
135. Not for Living in Your Head + Breaking the "Is He Mad At Me" Cycle
Go to https://zocdoc.com/notforeveryone to find and instantly book a top-rated doctor today. __Babies and gentlemen, boy have Jess and Caroline got a hack for feeling better! They talk about achieving small tasks, writing down your moods, and how both can help with ongoing crises. Then, they dive into a listener submission asking about how to deal with all the emotions and panic of dating. They discuss relationship anxiety, the age-old question of “is he mad at me?” and what it actually means to “be yourself” around your partner. Plus, a continuation of the conversation around balancing work and life. Are they father villains? You can decide. This episode was produced by our prince, Abi Newhouse (@abinewhouse). __Share with a friend!Follow, rate, and review on your favorite podcasting app!Subscribe on YOUTUBE for full episode video:youtube.com/@Not4EveryonePodPlus follow us on INSTAGRAM for more:@not4everyonepod@thegoodsitter@jzdebakeyYou can DM us there or submit topics for an upcoming episode to not4everyonepod@gmail.com.And don't forget about our APPAREL:nfepodapparel.com__Intro Music: “Doja Dance” by PALA__DISCLAIMER: All opinions are our own. We are not therapists or health professionals, or professional of any kind, really. Please see your own professional or counselor for professional support. Do your research and be safe!

Aug 14, 2025 • 1h 9min
134. Not for Phone Addiction + The Weird Reason We’re Not Drinking
Jess and Caroline dive into their gym struggles, navigating the pressures of membership tours while sharing humorous anecdotes. They explore the emotional ties to food and alcohol, emphasizing connection as a remedy for addiction. The hosts also reflect on the pros and cons of switching to 'dumb phones,' revealing how it impacts their friendships and communication. With personal stories of coping with stress and the importance of outdoor escapes, they highlight the journey towards balance and healthier habits.

Jul 31, 2025 • 1h 9min
133. Hot Not Bothered Summer: Red Flags Worth Staying For (Politics? Dating History? Kinks?)
Delve into the intriguing world of dating as the hosts dissect what constitutes a true red flag. They challenge conventional wisdom around serious relationships and political beliefs, emphasizing that not every warning signal means disaster. With humor, they navigate the complexities of boundaries and personal branding in the dating scene. Plus, insightful discussions on intimacy preferences and social media's impact on love make this chat relatable and eye-opening. Join them in exploring when to stay a little longer in your romantic adventures!

Jul 24, 2025 • 58min
132. Love Letter: When to Get New Friends + Spiraling About the Return of Skinny Culture
Dive into a heartfelt exploration of personal insecurities as the host reflects on friendship dynamics and societal pressures around body image. Discover how to navigate negativity and set boundaries with friends while laughing at the quirks of recent trends like 'labubus.' The discussion on the online #Skinnytok movement will resonate with anyone feeling the weight of others' expectations. Plus, enjoy a dose of humor as the host weaves in tales from reality TV, showing the importance of individuality in both friendships and self-acceptance.

Jul 17, 2025 • 53min
131. Hater Hour: "Comparing Myself to His Ex" and "Ghosting My BFF"
Check out the Fits Everybody Collection at https://www.skims.com/notforeveryone #skimspartnerGo to https://zocdoc.com/notforeveryone to find and instantly book a top-rated doctor today. __It's the Hater Hour. In this spicy solo episode, Caroline tackles two listener dilemmas that are so deeply unhinged in the best way: “Comparing Myself to His Ex” and “Ghosting My BFF.” Ever found yourself six months deep in his ex’s Instagram, convinced she’s hotter, kinder, and owns a Dyson Airwrap? Caroline’s been there—and she’s calling out the delusion. Expect hot takes on comparison spirals, fake confidence, and why stalking your boyfriend’s ex is basically emotional self-harm in cute packaging.Then we pivot from romance chaos to friendship crimes: yes, we're talking about ghosting your bestie. What do you do when your BFF is toxic, fair-weather, and impossibly demanding. To ghost? Or not to ghost? To confront? Or run? If you’ve ever wanted to be forgiven and a little feral, this episode’s your church.This episode was produced by your hater, Caroline Winkler.__Share with a friend!Follow, rate, and review on your favorite podcasting app!Subscribe on YOUTUBE for full episode video:youtube.com/@Not4EveryonePodPlus follow us on INSTAGRAM for more:@not4everyonepod@thegoodsitter@jzdebakeyYou can DM us there or submit topics for an upcoming episode to not4everyonepod@gmail.com.And don't forget about our APPAREL:nfepodapparel.com__Intro Music: “Doja Dance” by PALA__DISCLAIMER: All opinions are our own. We are not therapists or health professionals, or professional of any kind, really. Please see your own professional or counselor for professional support. Do your research and be safe!

Jul 10, 2025 • 1h 16min
130. Not for Actors on Actors + How Self Actualization is Actually Eroding Your Sense of Self
Discover the perfect responses to being ghosted, and navigate online negativity with grace, as personal anecdotes and humor blend seamlessly. Delve into the complexities of self-actualization and mindfulness, exploring the balance between self-improvement and acceptance. Critiques of celebrity interviews challenge superficial narratives in media, highlighting representation issues in the acting industry. Finally, reflect on personal identity and the importance of embracing life’s imperfections. It’s a thought-provoking and entertaining mix of insights!

Jul 3, 2025 • 1h 4min
129. Not for Laundry + Work Stress is a Scam, and Emails are Not Emergencies
This show is sponsored by BetterHelp. Visit betterhelp.com/notforeveryone today to get 10% off your first month.__Remember the game Rush Hour? Ever feel like that’s just your day-to-day life? This week Jess is picking up exactly what Caroline is putting down, and if you’re anything like the two of them (i.e. anxious, people pleasers, short), you probably will too. Commiserating over their recent stressful work weeks, J and C talk about their stress responses and coping mechanisms when it comes to feeling overwhelmed. Caroline comes in hot with a new mental shift – make it feel like a scavenger hunt – and though Jess is dubious of the suggestion at first, she’s bought in by the end, searching for a man in a green hat to take a photo with on a park bench.They also share some fresh complaints about things they’ve seen on the internet lately and where they do (and don’t) put their phones. Things get kooky, y’all!This episode was produced by your lover, Jess DeBakey.__Share with a friend!Follow, rate, and review on your favorite podcasting app!Subscribe on YOUTUBE for full episode video:youtube.com/@Not4EveryonePodPlus follow us on INSTAGRAM for more:@not4everyonepod@thegoodsitter@jzdebakeyYou can DM us there or submit topics for an upcoming episode to not4everyonepod@gmail.com.And don't forget about our APPAREL:nfepodapparel.com__Intro Music: “Doja Dance” by PALA__DISCLAIMER: All opinions are our own. We are not therapists or health professionals, or professional of any kind, really. Please see your own professional or counselor for professional support. Do your research and be safe!

Jun 26, 2025 • 1h 12min
128. Hot Not Bothered Summer: Decoding Your Most Maddening Dating Problems (So You Don’t Have To)
This show is sponsored by BetterHelp. Visit betterhelp.com/notforeveryone today to get 10% off your first month.__Do you feel that heat wave? We’re not bothered. It’s time for Jess and Caroline to enter the dating waters once more, to discuss listener’s burning questions about all things modern love. They start by talking through a love interest who doesn’t communicate well, weigh the pros and cons of sharing location with your partner, and then discuss the phenomenon of catching feelings only for your crush to pull away.They round out the episode by figuring out what it means when the person you're dating updates their dating profile, which leads into a deeper discussion about overanalyzing, asking the hard questions early, and identifying patterns in order to believe yourself. Get ready to feel empowered, kooks.This episode was produced by our prince, Abi Newhouse (@abinewhouse). __Share with a friend!Follow, rate, and review on your favorite podcasting app!Subscribe on YOUTUBE for full episode video:youtube.com/@Not4EveryonePodPlus follow us on INSTAGRAM for more:@not4everyonepod@thegoodsitter@jzdebakeyYou can DM us there or submit topics for an upcoming episode to not4everyonepod@gmail.com.And don't forget about our APPAREL:nfepodapparel.com__Intro Music: “Doja Dance” by PALA__DISCLAIMER: All opinions are our own. We are not therapists or health professionals, or professional of any kind, really. Please see your own professional or counselor for professional support. Do your research and be safe!