The Oprah Winfrey Show: The Podcast

Special: Stop Being a Doormat

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Dec 16, 2025
In this enlightening discussion, Dr. Martha Beck, a New York Times best-selling author, tackles the 'disease to please' and encourages women to break free from their doormat mentality. She introduces the K.I.S.S. rule and provides practical steps to assess and overcome people-pleasing behaviors. Dr. Nancy Snyderman shares insights on the physical toll of stress linked to pleasing, highlighting her 'chew and stew' theory, which connects emotional well-being and health. This episode is a powerful guide to reclaiming self-worth and setting boundaries.
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ADVICE

Test Buying Love With A Cash Fast

  • Do a one-week buying fast: leave home with $20 cash and no credit cards to test if people still value you without buying their affection.
  • Let go of relationships that only stay when you pay, and notice who truly cares.
ANECDOTE

Martial Arts Cured Her Hesitation

  • Martha Beck learned to say no by practicing martial arts after failing to react in a simulated attack.
  • Physical training taught her it's okay to fight and still keep relationships intact.
ADVICE

Express Feelings, Don't Fix Others

  • Stop fixing another's problem by issuing directives; express feelings instead ("I feel neglected"), then let them decide what to do.
  • Allow partners to hit bottom so they can change rather than enabling them.
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