Understanding Infidelity in Relationships

Infidelity is often misconstrued as a clear-cut issue involving a perpetrator and a victim, but it reflects the complexities of the relationship itself. Esther Perel emphasizes that the person who has an affair is not always acting out of a failing marriage; instead, the affair often reveals deeper relational betrayals, such as neglect or emotional disconnection that may predate the infidelity. This perspective challenges the notion that an affair is the ultimate betrayal and encourages individuals to consider the years of unnoticed issues that may have contributed to the situation. By recognizing these layers, couples can better navigate the healing process after an affair, addressing long-standing issues rather than focusing solely on the affair itself.