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20th Anniversary celebration with non-fiction writers Lisa Taddeo, Malcolm Gladwell, Anne Lamott, Maria Konnikova, and Alain de Botton

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Sep 2, 2025
In this special celebration, acclaimed authors Lisa Taddeo, Malcolm Gladwell, Maria Konnikova, and Alain de Botton share their insights on love, trust, and the human experience. Taddeo delves into the emotional struggles featured in her work about women's desires. Gladwell discusses the intricacies of manipulation and accountability in human behavior. Konnikova highlights the balance of emotion and specificity in writing about sex, while de Botton explores the philosophy of everyday life. Together, they reveal the power of storytelling in shaping our understanding of relationships.
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Therapy As A Mechanism For Self-Knowledge

  • Alain de Botton sees therapy as a tool to travel inside your own mind and understand yourself.
  • He also values solitary practices (walks, baths, writing) as self-directed analysis that reveal inner life.
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Sex As Permission And Loneliness Remedy

  • De Botton argues eroticism flows from the psychological excitement of being accepted into someone's private life.
  • He frames kissing and oral intimacy as permission that corrects loneliness rather than mere procreation.
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Commitment Forces Unedited Intimacy

  • Long-term relationships force exposure to partners' damaged sides and create unavoidable intimacy.
  • De Botton suggests editing exposure sometimes protects partners rather than abandoning intimacy.
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