Sorry, I Missed This: The Everything Guide to ADHD and Relationships with Cate Osborn Kink, BDSM, and ADHD
May 6, 2025
In this engaging discussion, Stefani Goerlich, an author and forensic sexologist, dives into the intersection of BDSM and ADHD. She explains how kink can serve as a valuable tool for regulation and connection, offering benefits like improved focus and enhanced communication. The conversation challenges common myths about BDSM, emphasizing its relational nature and the importance of consent. Stefani also sheds light on how negotiated arrangements can alleviate executive function challenges and strengthen emotional bonds in relationships.
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What BDSM Means
- BDSM encompasses bondage and discipline, dominance and submission, and sadism and masochism.
- These elements form customizable power, authority, and sensation exchanges in relationship dynamics.
Kink as Relationship Style
- Kink is fundamentally about relationships and not always sexual.
- This distinction helps make conversations about BDSM less taboo in everyday life.
Origins of Kink
- People often discover kink as part of normal adolescent development or later in adulthood.
- Only a small minority correlate kink with childhood trauma, challenging common misconceptions.
