Being Well with Forrest Hanson and Dr. Rick Hanson

Why You’re Stuck, and How to Fix It

Jul 15, 2024

01:17:16

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Explore why you're stuck and how to fix it with insights on self-acceptance, motivation, fear of the unknown, and breaking through plateaus. Discover tips for personal growth and overcoming obstacles in a candid discussion between the hosts and a clinical psychologist.

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Understanding underlying issues is essential for meaningful transformation.

Acquire skills, discern truths, and make efforts for internal growth.

Embracing oneself paves the way for positive transformation and personal advancement.

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Factors Hindering Change

Change is often challenging, with individuals feeling stuck despite efforts to progress. The podcast explores the reasons behind this stagnation, focusing on psychological factors that impede change. The discussion emphasizes the importance of understanding underlying issues and addressing them for meaningful transformation. Additionally, it highlights the significance of psychological factors that can be addressed to enhance agency and facilitate desired changes.

Balancing self-identity and personal growth

02:01

Claiming Choice and Accountability

01:00

Action Over Inner Reflection

01:20

Embrace Truth and Surrender to Your Innate Qualities

01:26

Intro

1min

Overcoming Obstacles for Personal Growth

7min

Exploring Self-Acceptance and Personal Growth

20min

Exploring the Role of Motivation in Driving Change

5min

Exploring the Concept of Secondary Gains

12min

Navigating Unhelpful Patterns and Fear of the Unknown

27min

Exploring Factors Contributing to Feeling Stuck and Tips for Breaking Through

5min

Most of us have gone through a time in life when it felt like we were stuck: unable to deal with our issues, change in useful ways, or make our lives the way we wanted them to be. It’s often not for lack of trying. You read the books, you followed the exercises, you maybe even saw a therapist…but it just didn’t help. On today’s episode, Dr. Rick and Forrest explore why this happens, and what we can do about it.

Rick shares a simple framework we can approach change through before Forrest digs into the six key factors that prevent us from changing. They talk about self-acceptance and how we can relax our attachment to the current version of ourselves, before moving on to factors that affect motivation. They then discuss working with fears, becoming courageous, and leaning into a more authentic version of who we are.

You can watch this episode on YouTube.

Key Topics:

0:00: Introduction

1:25: What we can (and can’t) change

4:15: Taking inventory: What hasn’t worked?

9:00: Seeing what’s true

15:25: Holding onto an identity, recognizing your defenses, and experimenting

29:55: Motivating yourself, and releasing feelings of guilt

36:35: Secondary gains

46:30: Courage, boredom, and fear of the unknown

50:20: Appreciating how our environment influences us

55:40: Seeing what’s already working, and getting new inputs

1:04:00: Authentically being you

1:06:55: Recap

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