524: How to heal your emotional wounds | Vienna Pharaon, LMFT, marriage & family therapist

“What you don't resolve your children will have to face,” says Vienna Pharaon, LMFT.

Vienna, a licensed marriage and family therapist and one of NYC's most sought after relationship therapists, joins us to discuss how to work through the emotional trauma you don’t even know exists, plus:

- Why everyone has emotional wounds (~00:13)

- Why you pursue emotionally unavailable people (~01:40)

- What causes a worthiness wound (~06:47)

- The 5 core emotional wounds (~09:38)

- Is your determination a trauma response? (~13:37)

- How to keep emotional wounds from being an obstacle (~19:56)

- How birth order affects your personality (~25:21)

- How to raise emotionally mature children (~31:26)

- How trauma shows up in relationships (~33:43)

- How to know if you’re ready for a serious relationship (~40:55)

- The most common relationship killers (~44:26)

- How to prevent resentment in your relationship (~47:38)

- Are you emotionally mature? (~51:43)

- How to become a better friend & partner (~55:38)

- Questions to ask yourself to identify trauma (~57:45)

- How to have more compassion for others (~59:50)

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Referenced in the episode:

- Vienna's book, The Origins Of You.

- Take Vienna's "What's your origin wound?" quiz.

- Research on depressive feelings & higher resource communities.

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