Raising Boys & Girls Episode 345: Parenting Without a Roadmap: Not Carrying Your Childhood Trauma into Theirs with Dr. Juli Fraga
Jan 29, 2026
Dr. Julie Fraga, a clinical psychologist who helps parents navigate relational trauma and perinatal mood concerns. She discusses how parenting can awaken old wounds. She explains how to tell when a strong reaction is yours, offers repair practices after losing your temper, and shares tools like the Change Triangle to name emotions and avoid shame spirals.
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Inner Work Is The Foundation
- Parenting work must start inside the parent, not just with the child.
- When parents name and validate their own emotions they better support their kids long-term.
Holiday Gifts Revealed A Wound
- Julie shares how her childhood holiday scarcity pushed her to overcompensate as a parent.
- She realized she was giving gifts to soothe her own wound, not because her child needed them.
Use Your Body As An Alarm
- Use body cues like jaw tension or voice tightness as signals to pause and calm.
- Take deep belly breaths to down-regulate before responding to your child.
