Life Kit You're Probably Apologizing All Wrong
Jun 15, 2021
Harriet Lerner, a clinical psychologist and the author of "Why Won't You Apologize?" dives into the intricate art of apologies. She discusses what makes an apology sincere versus insincere, stressing the importance of accountability and courage in maintaining healthy relationships. Lerner offers key strategies for expressing genuine remorse without excuses. Listeners will learn how to craft heartfelt apologies that validate feelings and encourage dialogue, transforming an apology into a powerful tool for connection.
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Eliminate "But"
- Remove "but" from apologies, as it introduces rationalizations or excuses.
- "But" negates the sincerity, even if the following statement is true.
Don't Over-Apologize
- Avoid over-apologizing for minor issues.
- Over-apologizing can create distance and irritate others.
Show Remorse (But Don't Overdo It)
- Show genuine remorse for significant offenses, but don't overdo it.
- Avoid making the apology about your feelings; focus on the hurt party.
