Meik Wiking, Danish happiness researcher and author, talks about the loss of his mum, the dark side of happiness, comparison anxiety, imposter syndrome, and finding joy in difficult times. He also discusses the impact of the coronavirus on wellbeing and shares insights on living with less and acts of service.
Acknowledging and embracing a wide range of emotions is crucial for overall well-being.
Creating and recalling joyful memories can bring comfort and joy during sad or challenging times.
Deep dives
Embracing the Full Spectrum of Emotions
Mike Viking, a Danish Happiness Researcher, emphasizes the importance of acknowledging and embracing the entire spectrum of emotions that humans experience. He states that happiness is just one of the emotions and that it is essential to explore and understand other emotions such as unhappiness, depression, loneliness, anger, and frustration. Viking believes that being interested in human beings means being interested in their overall well-being, which includes understanding and addressing a wide range of emotions.
Impacts of the Coronavirus on Well-being
Mike Viking discusses the findings of a report he conducted on the impact of the coronavirus on well-being. He acknowledges the expected decrease in happiness and well-being due to the pandemic. The report highlighted significant drops in well-being and concerns related to health, job security, and loved ones. Viking predicts that the impact of the pandemic will be reflected in future World Happiness Reports, showing a decline in overall happiness. He also notes an interesting observation that shame levels appear to have decreased during COVID, possibly due to a leveling of the playing field and less comparison with others.
Creating and Recalling Memories in Challenging Times
Mike Viking discusses the importance of creating and recalling memories, even in challenging times. He suggests finding joy and new experiences within the limitations imposed by the pandemic. Viking recommends engaging in activities that provide pleasure and connection, such as reading, trying new hobbies, or enjoying nature. He also highlights the significance of using sensory triggers to strengthen memories, like associating specific scents or sounds with particular moments. Additionally, Viking suggests reflecting on past joyful experiences and finding comfort in reminiscing, especially during sad or challenging periods.
Overcoming Imposter Syndrome and Celebrating Unique Contributions
Mike Viking shares his experience with imposter syndrome and how he overcomes it. He emphasizes the importance of acknowledging one's strengths and unique contributions instead of comparing oneself to others. Viking focuses on the value he brings as a communicator of happiness research, bridging the gap between academia and the general public. He encourages embracing what one can control and finding joy and meaning in everyday activities. Viking also emphasizes the need to recognize that no single accomplishment in life will lead to permanent happiness, and that the journey itself is more important than any destination.
Meik Wiking is a Danish happiness researcher, CEO of the Happiness Research Institute, and author of the bestselling Little Book of Hygge.
Meik is committed to researching into how more of us can get happier, but in doing so, he’s also studied what doesn’t make us happier. His latest report studied the impact of the coronavirus on wellbeing and - spoiler alert – it isn’t great. Here, he talks about his experiences of loss and sadness – both personally and professionally.
In this episode, Meik talks to Helen about:
The loss of his mum at an early age
Why sadness matters
The dark side of happiness
Comparison anxiety and inequality
Imposter syndrome
Professional setbacks
Living with less
Acts of service and the importance of feeling ‘useful’
How to keep on an even keel
Finding joy in difficult times
Trigger: suicide, bereavement
Find out more about Meik at https://www.meikwiking.com/ and follow Meik on Twitter and Instagram @MeikWiking or Facebook @meikwiking1
Follow Helen on Twitter, Instagram or Facebook @MsHelenRussell
Read more about Helen’s new book, How To Be Sad at Waterstones or Amazon
Get in touch with the show at howtobesadpodcast@gmail.com
Thanks to Joel Grove for production and to Matt Clacher at HarperCollins for making this podcast happen.
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