Take Control of Your Life: A Toolkit for Healing

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Jan 23, 2023

Dive into the complexities of trauma and how it affects our nervous systems. Learn that even minor experiences can have profound emotional impacts. Explore the distinction between 'little T' and 'big T' trauma while gaining insights for healing. Discover practical tools to manage emotional triggers, regulate your responses, and find inner calm. With personal stories and actionable strategies, this discussion aims to empower listeners on their journey of self-discovery and resilience.

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INSIGHT

Universal Trauma

Everyone experiences trauma at some point in their lives.
Past traumas are stored in the nervous system and affect daily life.

ANECDOTE

Mel's Childhood Trauma

As a fourth-grader, Mel Robbins experienced a traumatic incident involving an older child.
This early experience shaped her nervous system's responses.

ANECDOTE

Trauma Triggers

Mel Robbins' car accident as a child led to a lasting trigger: the sound of crunching snow.
Her mother, involved in the same accident, has a different trigger: the term "black ice."

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In this episode, I’m making the topic of trauma easier to understand by taking you step by step through my recent revelation that I was struggling with past trauma.

I was one of those people who thought I didn’t have trauma. And you may be like that too.

But if you have trouble managing emotions, expressing your feelings, dealing with upset, you go on edge easily, you have trouble focusing, or you struggle with anything like anxiety….

This will be very eye opening.

The words “trauma” and “nervous system” are thrown around like candy online.

I want to share the profound things that I’ve learned about both topics and how I’ve started to address and heal the trauma in my nervous system.

This episode is personal, it’s important, and tactical, and most of all – it’s packed with tools you can start using right now.

I hope this episode opens your eyes in the way that it did mine, and makes you not only understand this topic – but yourself a little bit better.

And, to go deeper, I have a free 9-page workbook for you that serves as a companion to this episode to help you with your own healing.

Just click here to access it.

And, this episode covers sensitive material, including discussion of trauma and sexual assault. If this topic isn’t for you right now – please skip this episode.

Xo Mel

In this episode, you’ll learn:

0:58: This episode is one of the most important I’ve ever created because of the powerful impact these learnings have had on my life. It will be the same for you.
7:40: What is trauma anyway?
8:40: Do you recognize yourself in these signs of past trauma?
10:00: Getting honest: my personal story.
21:15: What happens to me when I hear the sound of crunchy snow (and how this applies to you).
24:00: Do you have to remember trauma to heal from it?
30:30: If I have little-T trauma, does that mean my parents are to blame?
34:40: This is what your nervous system is (and it’s not what I used to think).
43:15: Here’s why your triggers were helpful then and why they’re not now.
50:00: How can you get yourself out of survival mode and start to focus again?
54:00: The difference between your two nervous systems.
56:30: Six takeaways to help you switch from fight or flight to rest and recovery

Disclaimer

If you uncover or have a history of trauma, consider enlisting the support of a trained therapist. This podcast episode and the companion workbook are not meant to be a substitute for therapeutic support.