The Allender Center Podcast “Raising Securely Attached Kids” with Eli Harwood
Aug 8, 2025
Join licensed therapist and award-winning author Eli Harwood, known as the 'attachment nerd,' as she shares insights on cultivating secure attachments with kids. She discusses the impact of personal attachment stories on parenting and the power of being 'good enough' instead of perfect. With a focus on emotional connection over control, Eli emphasizes the importance of repair and consistency in relationships. Get inspired by her practical advice for navigating parenting challenges while fostering empathy and resilience in children.
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Attachment Patterns Are Adaptive
- Attachment theory explains relational patterns as adaptations rather than moral failures.
- Understanding your attachment history reframes behavior as survival strategies, not character flaws.
How 'Attachment Nerd' Began
- Eli Harwood started 'Attachment Nerd' after a kitchen moment with her husband and twins.
- She used social media to teach attachment because it felt like a new stage for her voice.
Attachment Labels Aren't Fixed
- Attachment research has multiple traditions and terms that don't always map one-to-one.
- People move in and out of attachment patterns over time, so relational styles are fluid not fixed.