The Allender Center Podcast

In this engaging discussion, Christa Hardin, a therapist, coach, and author of "The Enneagram in Marriage," shares her insights on thriving relationships. She introduces the concept of Glow Stages in marriages, discussing how joy can be more challenging than conflict. The conversation emphasizes the Enneagram's role in fostering self-awareness and curiosity in relationships. Christa explains how nurturing love can transform not just partnerships but also extend blessings into the world, offering wisdom for anyone in different stages of their romantic journey.

Brian Lee, a pastor, coach, and founder of the nonprofit Broken to Beloved, shares his journey through spiritual abuse. He discusses the deep impact of betrayal on trust in God and community. The conversation emphasizes the transformation from feeling broken to recognizing one's inherent worth as beloved. Lee highlights the importance of collective healing and the role of communities in creating safe spaces for survivors. This candid dialogue encourages compassion, curiosity in faith, and the reclaiming of spiritual agency.

What does it look like to stand with a community through fire—both literal and systemic?  In this conversation, Rev. Marcos Canales and Rev. Dr. Robert Chao Romero join Rachael Clinton Chen to share their experiences leading and loving the Latino community in the Los Angeles area, especially during recent times of crisis. From homes lost and families displaced by devastating wildfires this year to the crushing weight of recent unjust immigration policies that threaten daily survival, these realities are urgent and relentless. Amid these challenges, they share how they create space for lament, fierce hope, and necessary rest in their lives as leaders. They show what it means to bear witness with empathy, stand in true solidarity, and nurture resilience when the world feels like it’s falling apart. Beyond politics, agendas, and policies, their witness points to a deeper hope in Jesus—one that sustains, heals, and empowers communities to keep moving forward. We invite you to listen, learn, and be moved by their wisdom—shaped by personal and communal healing. You can learn more about La Fuente Ministries and how you can support their work: https://www.lfmpasadena.org/

Join licensed therapist and award-winning author Eli Harwood, known as the 'attachment nerd,' as she shares insights on cultivating secure attachments with kids. She discusses the impact of personal attachment stories on parenting and the power of being 'good enough' instead of perfect. With a focus on emotional connection over control, Eli emphasizes the importance of repair and consistency in relationships. Get inspired by her practical advice for navigating parenting challenges while fostering empathy and resilience in children.

Dr. Jamie Eaddy, a thanatologist and founder of The Ratchet Grief Project®, dives into the complexities of grief, particularly within marginalized communities. She challenges death-dealing theologies that shame individuals for their pain. Jamie emphasizes that grief should be a communal, not a solitary, experience and critiques societal pressures that hinder authentic emotional expression. Wendell Moss supports the conversation on the importance of community in grief, advocating for shared vulnerability and connection as pathways to healing and resilience.

The discussion centers on the often-neglected practice of reflection during Sabbath. It highlights the dichotomy of savoring joy while grappling with longing and brokenness. Personal stories reveal how recognizing God’s redemptive work can enrich our narratives. The hosts emphasize the importance of navigating grief while celebrating those who inspire us. With humor, they explore how embracing life's moments can enhance personal growth. Finally, there's a heartfelt call to engage with healing work, inviting listeners to contribute to a greater mission.

The discussion navigates the delicate balance between dreaming and facing disappointment. Emphasis is placed on the importance of joy amid life's unpredictability and the power of play as a response to hardship. Personal stories highlight moments of mourning interspersed with genuine connection and delight. The concept of 'defiant joy' emerges, encouraging listeners to find happiness even in challenging times. Ultimately, it's a call to embrace redemptive play and hope, fostering deeper connections and healing.

Explore the transformative concept of Sabbath as more than just a day, but a mindset that influences daily life. Delve into the art of anticipating joy and rest amidst a busy summer, navigating family dynamics and the chaos of planning. The conversation encourages embracing small pleasures and creating lasting memories with loved ones. Learn to shift from a to-do list mentality to one of delight and hope, allowing Sabbath rhythms to shape unique experiences that foster connection and gratitude.

Explore the manipulative tactic of DARVO—Deny, Attack, Reverse Victim and Offender—widely prevalent in abusive relationships and power struggles. The hosts discuss the emotional turmoil faced by victims and the societal implications of these dynamics. They reflect on loyalty's complexities in church and politics, unveiling how silence can shield wrongdoing. Additionally, practical strategies like ‘Gray Rocking’ help people navigate boundaries with narcissists. Together, they emphasize the importance of community support and truth-telling as acts of resistance against oppression.

Petra Malekzadeh, the Facilitation Development Manager at the Allender Center and expert in Narrative Focused Trauma Care, shares her insights on fostering transformation in faith communities. She discusses the vital role of storytelling in spiritual formation and the challenges of integrating personal narratives into church life. Petra emphasizes the need for leadership alignment, the power of vulnerability, and how authentic engagement can deepen discipleship. This conversation invites listeners to envision a church where storytelling is central to growth and connection.