Jillian on Love How to Self-Soothe Your Anxiety with Sheleana Aiyana
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Sep 15, 2025 In this engaging conversation, Sheleana Aiyana, author of Becoming the One and founder of Rising Woman, dives into the realms of conscious relationships and attachment healing. Sheleana reflects on personal trauma and resilience, shedding light on identifying readiness for relationships and navigating fears of abandonment. The discussion also emphasizes the significance of self-awareness in partnership dynamics and the role of open communication in strengthening connections. With insights on nurturing creativity and emotional security, listeners are inspired to embark on their own healing journeys.
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Don't Date From Desperation
- Avoid entering relationships from desperation or panic because you will attract partners at that same frequency.
- Observe your mind and nervous system and choose a co-creator willing to do the work with you.
Attachment Is Nervous System Wiring
- Attachment styles reflect how the nervous system wired in early years, not just parenting.
- Parents account for ~30–40% of attachment formation while environment, community and culture shape the rest.
Anxiety Hides Commitment Fears
- Anxious attachment often forms from hot-and-cold caregiving that wires expectation of chaos.
- Many anxious people secretly fear commitment and may have disorganized patterns underneath.
