Tiwalola Adebayo, a confidence coach, author, and founder of Confident and Killing It, joins the discussion to share insights on embracing authentic self-expression. She emphasizes that confidence stems from self-care and personal fulfillment. Tiwalola encourages listeners to confront societal norms, redefine success away from social media metrics, and cultivate community support. The conversation also highlights practical steps to find and share one's voice, underscoring the power of personal stories in promoting mental health and growth.
Confidence can be cultivated as a skill through intentional practice, shifting perspectives, and confronting societal expectations around self-worth.
Overcoming the fear of sharing one's authentic voice involves acknowledging fears, visualizing positive outcomes, and taking intentional actions toward self-expression.
Deep dives
The Nature of Confidence
Confidence is described as a skill that can be cultivated, not an innate trait reserved for a select few individuals. Many people grow up believing that confidence is exclusive to those who appear naturally outgoing or self-assured, but this belief is misleading. By recognizing that confidence can be practiced and developed, individuals can begin to redefine their understanding of self-worth. This transformative approach empowers people, especially women, to confront negative self-perceptions and societal expectations about self-esteem.
Overcoming Fear to Find Voice
Fear plays a significant role in preventing individuals from sharing their authentic selves and voices with others. Common fears, such as fear of rejection or failure, can create psychological barriers that inhibit personal expression. Overcoming these fears involves acknowledging them and choosing to visualize positive outcomes instead of negative assumptions. By shifting focus from potential criticism to the possibility of making impactful connections, individuals can reclaim their power and start sharing their unique perspectives.
Action and Self-Investment
Taking action is essential for building confidence and personal growth, as it reinforces the belief that one is capable of achieving more. The podcast emphasizes the importance of small, intentional steps to cultivate confidence and combat self-doubt. Engaging in practices like journaling or celebrating minor achievements transforms the way individuals view their capabilities. This process involves not only self-reflection but also consistent efforts to invest in oneself, ultimately leading to a more authentic and confident presence in the world.
In this second Monday episode of the brand new Ask Anna series, Anna is joined by Tiwalola Adebayo Confidence Coach, Author, and Founder of Confident and Killing It.
Together Anna and Tiwa tackle the following question:
"I really admire how you use your voice for good and for change & ultimately to support and help people with their mental health and growth. I have so much to say but I just cannot find the confidence to share my true authentic voice, my thoughts & knowledge. How do I open up my voice and share authentically." Do you have an Ask Anna question you'd like to submit for future episodes? Or an anonymous confession?Visit the website to learn how
Learn more with Tiwa
Tiwalola Adebayo (née Ogunlesi) is a globally recognised coach specialising in positive psychology, international speaker, author and the founder of Confident and Killing It. Confident and Killing It is a purpose driven organisation and community that wakes women up to their worth so they can be confident, unstoppable and dare to live the life they truly desire. Through engaging and practical workshops, media and coaching programmes, Tiwalola equips women with the tools they need to overcome fear and self-doubt, programme their minds for success and live out their biggest dreams. Her first book Confident and Killing It was published by HarperCollins in July 2022, to great acclaim.